Thread: need some sex help

Little,

How long can a relationship endure with mismatched sex drives? I would question whether such couples are authentically IN LOVE with each other.

A successful relationship has myriad components, sex being one of the huge ones. When one feels sexually deprived, expect straying.

I will agree that some couples remain in loveless marriages, and I know more than a few, for various reasons. But I have yet to know of a single couple that has stuck it out thinking it was going to get better and it did. The norm is that when a relationship starts to go south it rarely turns around.


Good luck,

Taos

Originally Posted by funinthesun

The only thing I ever discovered was Porn. And that was a couple months ago. I was on the c/p one day and saw on the history a massive amount of porn girl on girl...And this is when i got upset b/c he had told me at this time " i dont want to have sex b/c im stressed or tiered"...So I confronted him and he denied it 100%...and for a while he would lock him self in the bed room and " play games" on his c/p..and I would find porn on the c/p everytime..and everytime he would deny it...I got angry with him one day and told him that i would not mind porn as long as he still had a sex life with me...butr till this day he 100% says NO that he did not watch porn...and infact I saw him watching it on TV a couple times to....So that was our only problem as far as that goes...as of now I dont see porn anymore..but as far as our sex life its still the same...me always asking our flirting for it... As for love. That man says he loves he more then anything. He is always telling me how much he loves me...Yet maybe I am missing somthing. He is going throw alot of stress...yet is that a reason still to ignore me? and our sex life?

This is the part that I would focus on if I were in your situation. If he is obviously watching porn and denying it to you, than there is a lot more going on here than lack of sex. Why can't he be honest with you? Why is he causing you so much frustration while he's getting off? People's sex drives can change depending on the stress in their lives, but if a couple is in love there shouldn't be a fluctuation in being honest with one another. Strong communication is a must for any couple at any stage in their relationship. There must be something you haven't tried to connect with him. Instead of accusing him or getting mad at him, try a different way of getting him to talk and open up. I say for you to try because he is clearly not concerned with the abrupt change in your relationship. Unfortunately it's all up to you to save your relationship and put in all the effort.

Good luck <3

Originally Posted by funinthesun

The only thing I ever discovered was Porn. And that was a couple months ago. I was on the c/p one day and saw on the history a massive amount of porn girl on girl...And this is when i got upset b/c he had told me at this time " i dont want to have sex b/c im stressed or tiered"...So I confronted him and he denied it 100%...and for a while he would lock him self in the bed room and " play games" on his c/p..and I would find porn on the c/p everytime..and everytime he would deny it...I got angry with him one day and told him that i would not mind porn as long as he still had a sex life with me...butr till this day he 100% says NO that he did not watch porn...and infact I saw him watching it on TV a couple times to....So that was our only problem as far as that goes...as of now I dont see porn anymore..but as far as our sex life its still the same...me always asking our flirting for it... As for love. That man says he loves he more then anything. He is always telling me how much he loves me...Yet maybe I am missing somthing. He is going throw alot of stress...yet is that a reason still to ignore me? and our sex life?

funinthesun.

Your boyfriend is a liar with no honor or character. Do you think he's going to change? Do you think that if he's willing to continue lying to you after being confronted with substantial evidence that he will not lie to you about other stuff?

A person who lies to you about material stuff is not nor will he ever be your friend. He's no more than a buddy, and buddies come a dime-a-dozen.

Be realistic. Know the score before going into the game. A person with no honor or character is not a man.

Were I you I'd be looking for a person who is worthy of you.


Best of luck,

Taos