Simultanious orgasms

**Elanor-Jane** · 08-15-2011 05:14 AM

Hey everyone, ever since I became sexually active I have had alot of trouble achieving orgasm. I'm pretty sure it's just my inability to relax my mind, my partners have always put in alot of effort; but recently my new bf and I of 5 months have miraculously come together twice in 3 days! My bf is the best partner I've had so far and holds on forever (I'd never come before without it being from oral sex) but what did it was me telling him to just concentrate on himself (we'd been going for ages and I could tell he was tired) and as soon as I saw him coming I got so freaking excited it just happened! Then again last night! Has anyone ever experienced anything like this!? I never thought something like this would happen to me, does anyone have any tips that make this happen for them on a regular basis? I don't want it to go away and what does it for me changes like the wind!

**jns** · 08-15-2011 12:02 PM

Work on getting both of you to a peak at the same time. That may mean one person slowing down to wait for the other one to catch up. Reaching orgasm is so very much mental. Your getting excited from him reaching orgasm is what did it. If you relax more and allow yourself to let go, you may be the one that starts to orgasm first and he may be the one getting excited from you orgasming (he will also feel you getting wet, getting hot and having contractions as well as seeing a lot of visual effects and hearing your breathing).

**Elanor-Jane** · 08-15-2011 05:22 PM

I know it's all in my head as technically I know all the spots and how we help these spots along! So how do u relax your mind? I've always struggled and most of the time I'm critiquing everything that's going on and it just means I take so long I hate it. I'm a known overthinker with everything

**jns** · 08-19-2011 12:33 AM

Try not to think critically, but rather of situations that were very peaceful and relaxing to you, such as a walk in a park. From there slowly start thinking of something that you found to be sexually stimulating, such as a sexy movie scene. Better yet would be something you got aroused about in nature. What was the scent in the air? What sounds did you hear? How did your skin feel? Was there a taste associated with it? What were your surroundings. Integrate your partners actions in the remembered situation and create a fantasy situation in your head where your partner is doing everything right and it is making you more excited. Putting all of these elements into a fantasy will distract you from thinking too critically and you will relax and go with the flow of things instead.

**mrdee** · 10-28-2011 09:16 PM

When me and my girl started dating the first few months were somewhat the same. I think it had alot to do with her and I relaxing 100 percent and letting ourselves go and being in the moment. Once she was totally comfortable to where she could let herself go and enjoy everything and not think about things the sex improved alot. The first time she came she was on top and was playing with her clit, and it was the first time she had gotten off while having sex ever. The next couple times she was doing the same thing while she was on top and eventually got so into it that she had her hands behind her and just found the right position to be in that had me hitting her in the right spot. She had multiple orgasms for the first time then as well, and she knows where she likes it now and enjoys it plenty!