inexperience + virgin = whaaa??

**amaranthine** · 08-15-2011 03:05 PM

I'm not the most experienced woman when it comes to sex. I'm in my early twenties and had two serious boyfriends before my current one. He was a virgin the first time we slept together. It wasn't horrible (all things considered), but we've worked at this for about a month (not long, I know...) and things haven't really improved. Just seeking some advice here for these two issues:

1) His penis is shaped different than others I've seen and I'm not sure how to work with it. It doesn't curve to the left or right like most, it curves upward. As in, if you take your index finger and hold it perfectly straight, then relax it, his penis has that kind of mild upward curve. It works great for me (because it hits my g-spot without really trying), but the issue is that it makes it really hard to get him off. He has to lay flat on me and press himself down to feel even close to cumming. The pressure needs to be focused on the bottom on his penis, but most positions I can think of put pressure on the top (especially considering how he's shaped). Sometimes he can't cum during sex at all, so I finish him orally.

2) His balls seem to be super sensitive. I know balls are generally sensitive things, but if I happen to bring my leg up between his during foreplay, even if it doesn't hurt him at the time, will hurt him later when he's trying to move faster. Similarly, he doesn't think we can try having me on top anymore because me moving on top of him hurts his balls (and I'm not a big girl... like 5'3" and 125 lbs). I've never had that issue before. Is this normal?

I'd appreciate any advice on how to better handle this... thanks!

**jns** · 08-15-2011 03:58 PM

Have you tried spooning or doggy style? One of those may work as another way.

**Elanor-Jane** · 08-15-2011 05:12 PM

That shape curve is pretty common, I haven't seen many that swing to the side lol. Just try more foreplay and ask him exactly what turns him on because sometimes it's not technical but a mind thing. Is he on medication? My bf takes ages and only one out of five times through penetration, and I think some guys will b like that as it's when the can relax after looking after us lol I think if your both having orgasms then I wouldn't b too worried and it's just a natural progression. U can't just make things happen it comes with time and patience and personally alot of guys love having it end with oral so I think ur doing fine

**amaranthine** · 08-15-2011 06:08 PM

Our foreplay takes a pretty long time; I'd say fifteen minutes most times, sometimes less. The times it goes longer is when we play around with bondage (that's his huge turn-on), but that still doesn't help him finish. If he's not pressing down like I described, he doesn't get much from sex. He says it feels good and everything, but it doesn't "get him anywhere." :/

We haven't tried those positions yet, either.

**Elanor-Jane** · 08-15-2011 11:17 PM

15 mins isn't long for foreplay for me anyway, depending on time and preference forplay can become more important than penetration in my exp. Esp if u guys like bondage. Try half an hour of foreplay Sometimes I'll go down for 20 mins then my bf does the same so by the time u get to the other stuff he hopefully will b so reved up it'll happen. Change it up too, sometimes I'll get off and blow my bf for a while just to change it up. Nothing should be set in stone and routine kills most things when it comes to sex