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    Hi all,

    I'm pretty sure this is not normal, but am I the only one, and any suggestions ?

    I'm now 27, for as long as I can remember I get an instant erection whenever I see a woman's cleavage in public, regardless of the location or the woman's age/looks etc.
    But it gets worse, after about 20 seconds my penis starts to throb and flex uncontrollably (the point of no return), after another few seconds I ejaculate.
    The only way to prevent this is to remove myself from the situation as soon as I see cleavage, it's not enough to look away, I have to leave the room or go round the corner so she is out of sight.

    This doesn't happen if I look at a woman's cleavage on TV, or on the computer, or a magazine or billboard, only if it's a woman in the flesh.

    For now I take the precaution of wearing a condom whenever I'm out in public where I might encounter a 'cleavage', this catches the spillage, but still doesn't hide the flagpole effect of an unwanted public erection.
    Sometimes I try avoid it by masturbating in a toilet immediately before walking into a crowded shopping centre or something, but it still happens just as fiercely, just the ejaculation is minimal if I've just masturbated.
    Going to the beach is completely out of the question for me!

    Anyone ever hear of this happening before ?
    I do have one idea that it might've started as a delayed result of some minor 'abuse' when I was about 13, although I don't remember feeling abused, I considered myself quite privileged when my friends mom would 'play' with me and she sometimes masturbated me until cum with her breasts.

    I've never been in a relationship, and am really concerned that this would greatly affect my ability to keep a girlfriend anyhow.

    I'm too embarrassed to discuss with a doctor or anything, but have the hope the problem will subside.

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    Unless your just taking the , blame it on that. As much as u may have liked it, it's abuse and prob responsible for your public pants issue. Mayb find that person and confront her and see what she says and how that makes u feel. Is this really appropriate for a womens health forum?

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    Thanks for the response, you're probably right, I guess it might not appropriate for a 'womans' health forum, didn't realise it was for women only, but then again inappropriateness is the story of my life.

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    In answer to your question Elanor I would say embarrassed, that the question of "has it happened to anyone else not", does not belong to a Women's Health Forum because we wouldn't know.

    However, there are men on this Forum, we are about equality and our male members are well respected and may be able to provide their opinions at least. Although having said that, obviously you didn't feel abused rather enjoyed it, if that actually occured, so it's a fantasy,and unless you can differentuate fantasy from reality there is a problem and it won't stop.


    I do have one idea that it might've started as a delayed result of some minor 'abuse' when I was about 13, although I don't remember feeling abused, I considered myself quite privileged when my friends mom would 'play' with me and she sometimes masturbated me until cum with her breasts.

    I've never been in a relationship, and am really concerned that this would greatly affect my ability to keep a girlfriend anyhow.

    I'm too embarrassed to discuss with a doctor or anything, but have the hope the problem will subside.
    So are you suggesting that you are still a virgin? Never had sex?
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    I'm curious, how does one manage to go out with a condom fitted to a flaccid penis, in preparation to what may come?

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    Sorry I wasn't trying to do your job I was just a little confused but genuinely offered an answer that I thought may help. I've had the impression that some men (and women) may abuse forums such as this any simply post for reactions but I offered an answer as I believed it may be genuine.

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    Shhh don't dob yourself in, just don't do it again

    Hopefully the OP will fill us in on the questions posed to him, maybe then we can answer further.

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    Dob myself in ? Sorry I'm pretty vauge!!

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    Sorry I wasn't trying to do your job
    Dobbed yourself in

    We are hoping that the OP comes back though so thanks for your thoughts on the subject.
    Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
    It doesn't happen over night
    if truth were to be told.

    Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
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    Of course men are welcome here and it is good for us ladies to gain a better understanding of some of what our male counterparts deal with. This must be very frustrating. I doubt very much that a doctor could help with this as it really isn't a medical issue, its a sexual response and thereby emotional/mental. A good sex therapist or sex coach should be able to help you learn to retrain your responses.
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