Thread: Do you think my husband would cheat on me cuz we were each others first?

I appreciate everything you guys are saying. I feel much better now. You're right, they aren't married and one of my so called "friend" had a husband, lost their virginity to each other and then he cheated on with a prostitute after a few months of being married. They were married before she found out. She found out when she went to the hospital and found out she had Herpes. :-O So I think she has it classified in her head that all men are cheaters. But you're all right, I think they are jealous. I totally forgot one Christmas party me and my husband were throwing and my one friend Natoshya (she was always jealous of me in school) went up to my husband in the kitchen while he was getting more wine and my husband told me that she was "hitting" on him. She was telling him all these dirty things. Things she wanted to do with him and how he should be with a real woman like her. She grabbed his manhood and whispered in his ear "baby, you know where to find me..." and licked his ear and she walked away...he told me as soon as it happened. I was furious. I kicked her out and she says to me "I don't know why you are mad at me. I didn't do anything wrong. I was probably playing around and he took it the wrong way..." wrong way my ...touching my husband...I should have knocked her out! But my kick-boxing teacher told us we should never act out unless they lay a hand on you first. After that, me and my husband grew closer and I trust him more. Thank you all. I know we all can be great friends on this forum. I am very lonely since I no longer have a job. :-)

I think it is beautiful that you two are each others first. In all honesty, I think it is something everyone wishes to have. Who wouldn't love to say that, "Yes, my husband is all mine. He has never shared this part of himself with another woman, and I with another man. We are completely unique to each other."

If anything, I believe they wish they could have something just as special.

Do not let them ruin the beautiful relationship you have with questions that have no true ground to stand upon.

And as a married gal of 14 years, does it really matter if you were each other's firsts? I mean, my husband and I have only had eachother in the sixteen years we've known one another. I would think the same risk applies to any long term relationship on whether or not your mate is bored/curious. I am very happy with our sex life because it's considerate, passionate and loving. So the fact that you're virgins doesn't mean you have this looming dark cloud over your head. I think every relationship stands the risk. I hope that makes you feel better with the fact that you're not alone with these thoughts!

Thank you ladies. I feel better. :0)

OMG i find this way too cute... you both have been together from your teen years.. i mean everyday we see relationships breaking some in just a few months while some in just a few years... you people have been together all these years and you are both happy .. so forget what your friends are saying if you both are happy together.. he wont cheat..

He is my best friend. He and I can tell each other anything...I am lucky to be the only woman he has ever had...and he feels the same about me. I am so glad I found my soul mate on the first try lol <3 We have been though a lot and because of that we are stronger. We went through a tough time when I miscarried in 2008. It happened to fast. His father died and my baby died a week after...I was 8 weeks pregnant. That was the first time we ever got pregnant. We had a lot of problems in our marriage. I almost committed suicide and if he didn't stay around to save me, I wouldn't have my angel now. The drs told me because of my health and the way my vagina is, it would be impossible for me to get pregnant...well after a few years, we stopped trying and look what I am blessed with? A beautiful baby boy Jude Dominick Chavez <3 I believe that God wanted me to wait to have a baby. I now realize that everything happens for a reason. If that baby lives, he or she could have been ill or I could have lost the baby at a later date, and I would not have my beautiful son now. I am grateful for the people in my life that have stayed by me through it all...and that person was my husband. I owe him my life. I don't know what or where I would be with out him. He is my life and my love. I hope we die old together and that we lived our lives to the fullest. :-)