Thread: Just started having sex...it hurts!!

Hello!
I am 22 years old and just got married about a month ago. I had been saving sex for marriage, so now been having sex for about a month for the first time.
Its been far from the wonderfull orgasmic awsomeness that I had expected. I expected it would hurt a little at first, but I honestly didnt think it would still be hurting a month later. Its incredibly frustrating as I love my husband and I want to experiance this awsome sex with him, but sex winds up being more often then not a dissapointment. Hes frustrated because he cant bring me to orgasm, and he also gets frustrated because I often have to ask him "are you going to cum soon?" because I just want it to be over with.

Part of my problem is that I honestly cant tell sometimes if I like something or not, or if pain is the right word to discribe what I am experiancing.
First of all, it isnt a matter of lubrication, because I know what it feels like when theres a lack of lube, there is a burning and irritating, pulling sensation around the opening itself......this is NOT the pain that I am usually encountering. The pain, or rather discomfort since Im not sure that pain is the right word, is inside, and it feels like hes hitting a wall in there, or that hes too big for me or something. Sometimes this almost feels good, but its so intense that it dosnt feel good. Its hard to discribe. Im wondering if this sensation Im experiancing is what most girls like and enjoy and that theres just something wrong with me because I dont. And even on the rare occasions where we have stumbled upon a position or a rythme that really does feel very good for me, its still not something that I could ever reach orgasm from.
AND, in order to make HIM orgasm, he has to use really hard and fast strokes that dont feel good for me at all, so I end up just gritting my teeth and hoping it ends soon!

All in all Im really frustrated with my experiance with sex. I cant cum from it, it hurts more often then not, when it dosnt hurt its this confusing "it feels like pleasure but also like pain and I dont understand" sensation, and I honestly perfer masturbating.

Help!

Have you experienced orgasm through masturbation? Do you guys practice foreplay/oral? Is he able to bring you to orgasm or give you pleasure when he does that? If you can bring yourself to orgasm through masturbation , you might want to incorperate that into your sex life... masturbating while he is inside of you... it can heighten your arrousal, making your vagina more accomadating to his penis, making it less uncomfortable for you.

Also doing lots of making out and foreplay and teasing and having build up can get you both in the mood to where he doesn't take as long to orgasm, and you enjoy the sex more because you are actually anticipating and craving it.

Sounds like he needs to slow down (he's hitting your cervix too hard) and make you come from other means and then maybe you will be able to have him go faster. Took me years to be able to have enjoyable penetrative sex. I think it's sweet that some people wait til they are married but I honestly couldn't marry someone who I didn't have enjoyable sex with. It's not the whole relationship but it helps to have it out of the way as an issue