Thread: Sexually frustrated husband would appreciate female perspective...

Originally Posted by stressed

A study has recently been released about men's testosterone, and hence libido, dropping after having a child (at least temporarily). I obviously cannot post the link, but it should be easy to find. With that said, libido clearly has its ups and downs in both men and women. I personally don't buy the evolutionary explanation of "the hunter and the housewife". Individuals are different, whether they are men or women.

I'd like to reply to this specific line, by marcopoly though: "when woman think on how to make their man really happy is not about cooking, buying us clothes or having the house clean, is about to find us around the house, and given us a wet kiss with a lot of touching...this kind of not expected love, makes us to feel closer to our wives".

This is not a fact. There 'are' men who want a cook and a house cleaner, more men than you think there are. So many women welcome their husbands in underwear, only to get a "that's nice, but what do we have for dinner"? back.

But to return to the OP, you seem to have an unmatched sex drive and the best solution would be counseling, as you cannot do much about it. Like it has been mentioned, unless she realizes it's her problem and unless she wants to change this, there's nothing you can do. She's shut down.

Weekly sex only to avoid arguments is not sex (I've been there), it's worse than not having sex actually because in the end you'll even feel guilty for wanting it and "forcing" your partner into doing something she doesn't want to do.

I wish I had a solution other than therapy.

I see your point.....

Originally Posted by junglefever

Thats interesting about the drop in libido after having a child (at least temporarily)..but 'in general" a guy has LESS up and down swings in his libido month after month and over the years as females do.. cant post any links either I guess that a rule here?But a guy will have a more 'consistent libido not NO ups and downs..just in general if hes the kind of guy for intance that likes to (wants to) have sex everyday when hes 20...then at 30 it may be he likes to have sex 3 or 4 times a week instead at 50 he may have "dwindled down" to 1 or twice a week...A woman is more likely to for instance like to have sex every day for a week...and then none for 2 weeks..and then twice the next(in the same MONTH in the same YEAR)..like that.a guy seems to have more of "consistant" with not many interuptions in his libido..with not a lot of exceptions..

And Im SOOO glad you said that about guys not wanting a woman to cook or clean. When a woman offers gifts of love through domestic service..Im insulted..its like "all we want is sex"anything else you do out of care concern or LOVE for me no thanks..

Wives arent prostitutes..someone mentioned earlier because of the "mans need " for sex thats why "prostituion is the oldest job in the world..Well to that I say hire a prostitute then 3 to 5 x's a week..or everyday..Prostitutes dont have to LOVE you...they dont have to care about you ..they dont have to promise to stick by YOU when you act like a horses rear towards her..she NEVER has to see you again..she doesnt have to share her home with you ..be your OTHERWISE from sex companion .lie in bed next to you listening to you snore all night..work beside you to pay the bills...raise your children with you. She doesnt have to LOVE you or even LIKE you ..in fact she can think you are a disgusting pig that she has ZERO respect for..or is completely "indiffernt" havign ZERO feeligns at all..her motive is money....her goal is to effieicntly and "quickly"(depending on how much you want to PAY) service your sexual needs get paid and leave..They also dont have to RELY on YOU for her sexual pleasure..they FAKE it..as part of the show..they have thier own boyfriends(or husbands ) that they love and get turned on by and get their erotic needs met by..As well as prostitutes again same as porn atresses..are often times drug addicts or alcoholics to help "numb" the negatives side affects of having sex with you...So you cant compare the two..

But if thats the 'proof" somehow that men need sex week in and week out every time the urge hits them for 50 years ..they need to have good source then for an on call prostitute house they can afford..

I am sad to hear that you got that kind of men - I am not like that, on the contrary, I cook, clean and like to complement my wife all the time, so I guess, for me it works a woman that makes sure she makes me feel wanted...but I see you point since there are many man like that.....too bad....