Sexy Pictures?

**kodakbaby** · 08-29-2011 05:32 PM

Ok so im pretty sure almost everyone has at one point in their life sent a "sexy Picture" and i wanted to kno what was YOUR insight, thoughts, comments or views, etc.

Reason is because im always trying to keep my bf's relationship and Mine interesting. Never really doing anything "crazy" or "out there". So last night as he was at baseball practice i was online and read on Cosmopolitan that it was good to sometimes send "sexy Text messages" or even sexy pictures. That which i have never done in my life. So earlier today as i got out of the shower i was wearing some really cute lace undies(thong) and decided to take a picture of my back side alone, not showing my face. When my bf came home from a long day of work i decided to send it to him since hes a big " man" and is consitently grabbing and kissing mine

. Unfortunately, he didnt respond how i wanted him too. He was actually bothered by it, he explained why when i promised not to do it again. But now i feel really dumb

**Little** · 08-29-2011 06:13 PM

Why did he say he didn't like it? All the men I've dated have liked sexy photos, especially when far away from me for extended periods of time. Though it can be rather chancey, sending it over an unsecured network. There's a lot of potential for abuse, but with your face not showing, I don't see the big issue.

**LanaBear** · 08-29-2011 06:16 PM

I'm curious too, as to what his reasons were that he was bothered by it...

I wouldn't feel dumb though. You didn't know, that he felt that way and personally I'm still going, huh, who woulda thunk? So, don't worry yourself over it, apparently, I guess, it's just something he's not into.

**ska1331** · 08-29-2011 06:36 PM

Wow that's different. I had sent some pics to my wife and she actaully liked the idea and asked for more. I can't imagine a man not liking pics of his SO. Being a guy I'm at a total loss. What were his reasons if you don't mind sharing?

**Elanor-Jane** · 08-29-2011 07:09 PM

all my partners have been appreciative. its gone both ways too

**kodakbaby** · 08-29-2011 07:38 PM

thats what i said too i was so confused. this was our convo (p.s we live together)

Me: i sent a text sayin "im sorry i didnt know it was going to bother you, promise it wont happen again"
him: Text: "come to the room"
Me: *walk in room* Yes?
Him: Sit down
Me:whats up?
Him: i deleted the picture as soon as i opened it. Dont get me wrong i loved it, it was amazing. But i dont think u should take pictures like that.
Me: Ok i never had and i deleted it too but its not like i was gonna send it to other people. I didnt know it would bother u
Him: Baby i love you and dont want u to take pictures like that because that reminds me of hoes and ur not a hoe. Ur a lady and i respect you. *kiss*

I didnt think he would react like that since he mentioned once b4 his ex fling sent him nude pics and well i wasnt nude just in nice sexy panties. But im glad at least he respects me, but im still shocked...lol and too think i wanted to take sexy pics in lingerie for him, now i kno not too

**Little** · 08-29-2011 07:50 PM

That sounds less like respect and more like he degrades women who "do certain things." It also sounds like he sat you down like you were his daughter and gave you a "little talk." It reeks of a Madonna-"Ho" Complex and a man who has to differentiate the women he has sex with from the women he loves. Some real growing needs to happen in his mind.

**Elanor-Jane** · 08-29-2011 08:02 PM

Originally Posted by Little

That sounds less like respect and more like he degrades women who "do certain things." It also sounds like he sat you down like you were his daughter and gave you a "little talk." It reeks of a Madonna-"Ho" Complex and a man who has to differentiate the women he has sex with from the women he loves. Some real growing needs to happen in his mind.

i agree, if a man ever "sat me down" like a child for a talk i would punch his lights out. I must be a total ho!!!! hahahaha

**kodakbaby** · 08-29-2011 08:12 PM

Originally Posted by Elanor-Jane

i agree, if a man ever "sat me down" like a child for a talk i would punch his lights out. I must be a total ho!!!! hahahaha

ha i love that!...

And well we always talk about things like that but im still shocked because of everything

**kodakbaby** · 08-29-2011 08:13 PM

Originally Posted by Little

That sounds less like respect and more like he degrades women who "do certain things." It also sounds like he sat you down like you were his daughter and gave you a "little talk." It reeks of a Madonna-"Ho" Complex and a man who has to differentiate the women he has sex with from the women he loves. Some real growing needs to happen in his mind.

yes i agree and i do feel sometimes as he needs alot of growing to do. ahhh men lol