Cannot have an orgasm from sex...help!
I've heard a lot of women have trouble getting off from sex, but I don't want to be one of them anymore! I have had only 2 orgasms from sex and I don't know what my problem is. My husband won't take the time to learn what he had done to get me off those 2 times and once he gets off, he doesn't want to do anything anymore (like play with me or use toys, etc) so I always have to do it myself and I'm sick of it! Has anyone had the same problem and figured out how to fix it?
As much as you want this to be about your husband not giving you orgasms from sex, it is also about you knowing how you reach orgasm and the teaching him what to do. It doesn't help, of course, that he is unconcerned and seemingly selfish. Have him bring you to orgasm manually or orally several times before having intercourse as it will get you more primed to have one during the intercourse.
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Your husband is your problem. If he's not willing to learn then good luck.
However as jns pointed out, you also have to be willing to teach him. If you just leave him to try to learn how to please you by himself he won't get far.
Communication is key....it has to happen away from the kids, work and other staffs, it has to happen in such a way that he understands that for you is a big deal...when I talked to my wife once I cry tears out of my face when I told her that all my life, I wanted to feel sexy and desire but never felt worth it before as I was fat. I told her that today that I am in great shape (lost 50 pounds from the heaviest I have ever been) and very muscular, that I really needed to feel sexy and when I told her, I really got emotional and she looked me and finally understood how much pain she was causing in me. Most woman don't understand that a successful marriage must have a wonderful sex life (of course depending on health). Sex can be enjoy until very late in life, all depends how much you want to invest in making sure you stay excited and happy.
You start dying in life once you can think in anything that make you excited and happy
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