can technique make up for lack of gurth?

**Maxim** · 09-03-2011 05:43 PM

ive only had sex a few times in my life and i dont think ive ever made the girl orgasm and it makes me sad.

im long enough i think but my gurth is only 4.5 inch and i think its been too thin to help girl orgasm. i know you all say size does not matter but it matters for me because i can probably stretch a vagina more by using two fingers, do you know how worthless that makes me feel?

i want to be able to make sex as good for the girl as it is for me - i dont even want to have sex anymore if i cant make the girl cum too.

can i find the gspot in a girl with good technique or is it really all about width? its very sad for me.

thank u.

**Little** · 09-03-2011 05:53 PM

Technique will help you out greatly

The best thing you can do is work with your next partner to maximize BOTH your pleasures. Each woman is different, so don't take those few women you've had sex with bring you down.

**Mes T** · 09-03-2011 06:21 PM

Maxim, did you know that the majority of women cum from oral/manual stimulation of the CLITORIS? And that this has nothing to do with the penis?

One of my best friends prefers guys with smaller penises, you know why? Because she says those guys actually take the time to learn what a woman's body NEEDS to orgasm. She said that in her experience, guys with bigger penises assumed they didn't need to do anything at all, and the sex fell flat. I'm sorry but for many women, thrusting in-out with a penis (no matter the size) ain't gonna cut it.

The sooner you learn the value of tongue, fingers, and the anatomy of a woman, the sooner you'll start making many girls VERY HAPPY.

And don't be afraid to ask "What do you want me to do" in the bedroom - you can't be expected to know how each individual woman's body works. Have her teach you. It'll make the whole situation much easier and more enjoyable for the both of you.

**Seeker_Advice** · 09-04-2011 07:32 AM

I agree with Mes T.

From a male's perspective (mine), I've always felt that waaaaay too much emphasis was put on the size of the man's penis when in fact, it's the incorporation of the fingers and mouth that really make a difference. Perhaps you got caught up in all of that garbage and now have psyched yourself out.

There is a book title thread in this forum that I would suggest you find and get some of the titles then read them. One of the books I frequently recommend to other males is She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner Ph.D It takes the focus off of you and your penis and teaches you to put the focus on your partner first (where it belongs...IMO too).

Did you also know that the most sensitive part of a woman's vagina is the opening to it and just inside? Not the very back, or as far in as you can jab her (though there are exceptions).

So forget most of what you've heard, especially about size, length, girth, whatever and instead focus on bringing pleasure to your partner first.

As males, our pleasure comes easy, at least in a physical sense....but what feels better than making your partner feel as much pleasure and sexual joy as possible? Nothing...

**jns** · 09-04-2011 12:45 PM

Technique will make up most of the experience no matter what physical sizes are involved. Getting all of a woman's body and all of her mind involved is what you are looking for as long as she allows it. Communications are a great thing. Don't forget the nonverbal communications. She may not tell you what she wants in words, but rather in her body actions and in sounds.