HELP---bleeding after being fingered for the first time

**manicerica** · 09-05-2011 11:38 AM

Hello

So, I was fingered for the first time, and it hurt a lot whilst it happened, in fact it was really, really painful! (Yes, I know, I should have said something).

However, the strange thing is, two days AFTER this, I started bleeding down there quite a bit. I really don't think it was my period as that would have been almost 3 weeks early and I'm quite regular, and also, the bleeding was only for 2 days, while my periods are a week at least.

I'm confused because if the blood was due to my hymen, or a scratch, wouldn't it have bled sooner than two whole days? And I really don't think it was my period...the blood was brighter, it was pretty light bleeding, and like i say only happened over 2 days.

What happened?

**jns** · 09-05-2011 12:07 PM

It may have been a scratch that scabbed over, then with just the right motion, tore partially loose.

Your SO needs to learn where to manually stimulate you to get you to orgasm. The largest concentration of nerve endings is on the clitoris. Fingering in the vagina without enough lubrication can lead to scratches and cuts, mostly from dry stretching of sensitive skin and from fingernail cuts. With many women, it does nothing. The clitoris can be rubbed or lightly squeezed with a lubricated finger or lubricated fingers. It is best to do this through the hood as direct stimulation can be overwhelming or painful for many women. As the clitoris becomes engorged from the stimulation, it can stick out from under its hood, so the stimulation should be done slightly back from the opening.

**Elanor-Jane** · 09-05-2011 08:40 PM

If she had a scratch or tear she would have felt it. They are, horrendous!
Changes in your cycle, spotting and bleeding for seemingly no reason is common.
Or, if your hymen was intact beforehand then it is most probably this but the blood has just taken it's time. Your mucus can hold onto it for a good while.
Go to the drs if your that worried but I'm sure they will tell u it was your hymen or spotting/bleeding due to changes in your cycle.

Hey jns as awesome as u are

I don't think it's wise to tell a girl she's had a cut or scab if she hasn't mentioned stinging or pain. It's a pretty scary thought to think you could be walking around with re-opening scabs in your vagina. Just saying

**jns** · 09-05-2011 10:02 PM

Originally Posted by Elanor-Jane

Hey jns as awesome as u are

I don't think it's wise to tell a girl she's had a cut or scab if she hasn't mentioned stinging or pain. It's a pretty scary thought to think you could be walking around with re-opening scabs in your vagina. Just saying

Point taken, however I have a question in return. Why do some women allow a guy to finger them without giving him a manicure if necessary and without enough lubrication? I know I have looked at the doctor's fingers before a prostrate examination (to check nail length and condition) which I also know is done with gloves. And the doctor had a tube of lube.

The way I saw it was that the two conditions were related. The initial pain from the digital penetration could have lasted long enough for the wound to close, even if it was shallow enough to not bleed. You are probably right, it was coincidental. Thanks for your clarification. I am not trying to scare women to death.

**Elanor-Jane** · 09-05-2011 10:27 PM

I guess young men and women don't think of these things when they begin to have sex. I've had inexperienced and experienced (but ignorant) men shove fingers inside me (how do u think rape occurs? It's force) it doesn't take straggly nails to cut vaginal walls, the wrong angle can be enough and like u mentioned before lack of lubrication from young me thinking that that's just what your supposed to do and it'll turn a girl on.
In my case it was force and someone wanted to hurt me (not nessesarily cut me) but put it over me and show who was boss etc.

I have also, almost been cut, but more grazed by my current bf as her twisted his fingers around too fast. I was plenty lubed up and he is a medical specialist so his nails are always short.
So it's not a matter of what women let happen but accidents occurring and then other bad things happening that are sometimes out of a womans control

**Elanor-Jane** · 09-05-2011 10:36 PM

* young men

**manicerica** · 09-06-2011 11:52 AM

Thank you very much for both your answers...

That's interesting about the blood being able to hold off for a few days-yeah I am a virgin, and have a gut feeling it was my hymen, and like I said, I think it was that gap between actually being fingered and first seeing the blood that confused me, so thank you for that!

But then, is it not weird there wasn't initial bleeding at the time?

Yeah, I'm pretty sure it wasn't a cut, it just didn't [U]feel[U] like that...and it was my first experience like this, in the dark, late at night...sorry but I'm not going to be thinking about manicures and lube anyway! Everyone's allowed to be inexperienced at some stage

Thanks

**shanrocks1985** · 11-25-2011 03:54 AM

You might not have fully broken your hymen through sex, in fact your hymen is almost never completely gone until you give birth. So that is most likely it, and I doubt it was his fingernails because it would have hurt you as it happened. Don't worry unless it happens again