Thread: My boyfriend has trouble "finishing"

My boyfriend and I have a very healthy sex life. We do it multiple times a
Week but he always takes forever to come. I know this is the opposite problem from the norm (the minuteman) but he needs to go at least another 30minutes after I finish and it's really hard for me to stay in it. I love being with him and he satisfies me more than anyone else I've ever been with but I can't stand that it takes him so long. I've tried longer foreplay, dirty talk, clean talk, lingerie, but nothing seems to really get him there quicker. Ive also never multiple orgasimed before so maybe that's why I get bored?
Have any of you ladies been through this before?

Male here...

Ask your BF to stop masturbating and/or do some research/reading on Delayed Ejaculation. There are many things that can contribute to it but you won't know what they are and how to improve your situation until you've done some research.

DE is a big problem with couples though not as widely recognized or discussed as PE.

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Try doing pelvic floor exercises. These will boost muscle tone. This will take a little while to work.
Another thing is to try doggy style. Reach through from below and start massaging his shaft and balls- and your self for that matter. This can cause a much shorter time for him.

My bf is on anti-anxiety meds and it can take him a while. He actually said I was the first to make him come in ages so that felt pretty good.

Does he come from oral? Try going down on him instead. Every man is different but he gave me a couple of pointers when we first met that help him personally and I combined this with my own talent (lol) and we have it down to 10 mins if he's too tired and I want to give him a bj anyway. When it's penetration what do u do that quickens him? Try spreading your cheeks if it's doggie, tugging lightly on his sack or if ur brave enough, stick your fingers up your you know what. As someone myself who can take a while it's often the most dirty and random things that will work. Every time I've been with a guy that take a while I'll do something really random and it works everytime.

Having trouble finishing can be a good thing when it relates to Tantra or Taosim.

Every time a man ejaculates, he loses life energy (it's why we are so tired after it).

Though here are some techniques which might help him ejaculate faster. Just read a book on Tantra or Taosim and maybe instead of "finishing" he'll just want to get you to enjoy it and be completed after that.

The random dirty things mentioned before can work, when combined with a few other things.

Get in a position which will cause fatigue for him faster. If we look at the problems of premature ejaculation, it's usually not enough lubrication, fatigue, sensitivity, and too much stimulation.

I wrote an article recently about a position which causes fatigue quickly in a man. Due to the way hes holding himself up with his arms and his legs not being planted straight down, his body is curved over you and he's thrusting and rubbing your clit at the same time.

I call it the Advanced Doggy Style.

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One reason it's because he may be circumcised which means the head of his penis is not sensitive at all. Rubbing in underwear, and pants all day makes him not feel it as much.

And yea, if he masturbates to ejaculation before sex, or anytime during the day, it will make him last longer unintentionally.

There can also be a trigger to ejaculation in his brain. What makes him come usually? Some guys who look at porn can ejaculate in 5 minutes and then during sex they don't ejaculate at all because their body was trained to ejaculate on porn and not a woman.

Of course I recommend against porn because in the long run it hurts our brains and perceptions about sex. But if it helps him ejaculate faster, get him some visual stimulation other than looking at you from behind.

Spend some time figuring out what makes him ejaculate during masturbation and what he really likes. Maybe if you were in a skirt he'd be so turned on, well, kaboom.

Also, here two very specific things he might be doing unconsciously to delay ejaculation.

Have him take short shallow breaths. If he takes deep breaths he'll last longer, short and shallow will make him come faster.

The other one is his tongue. If he touches his tongue to the roof of his mouth, it actually causes him to delay ejaculation. It comes from both Tantra and Taosim, where energy is moved around his body to his brain from his penis instead of staying in his penis.

I know this sound like voodoo or whatever, but it's also a psychological feeling of "rooting" himself so he doesn't ejaculate. Meaning he's feeling something elsewhere in his body and not just his penis which distracts his concentration of feeling while he's inside you to delay ejaculation.

Oh and if none of this works, GREAT. Most men don't become successful (millionaire +) in life until they are 40+. This is because between ages 13-35 or so, we focus too much on sex and ejaculation drains our energy and ambition.

If he follows this simple guideline for ejaculation used for thousands of years (taosim) he'll increase his chances of being very successful because of channeling his sexual energy into ambition.

"A man at twenty can ejaculate once every four days.
A man at thirty can ejaculate once every eight days.
A man at forty can ejaculate once every ten days.
A man at fifty can ejaculate once every twenty days.
A man at sixty should no long ejaculate."

Oh, one more bonus tip. If you are in a position where you can touch his balls. Do so, but push them closer to his body if they are just hanging. like |8--->, see they are close and on the body. The reason for this is when a man is getting closer to ejaculation, his testicles will literally and get ready to blow by getting closer to his body and more in a ball like circle.

So if he's standing up and they are hanging, you'd grab them, and push them up a little then toward his body, not so hard, you just want to get them in position for ejaculation.