Help!
I was looking at the forums on my laptop a few days ago. The phone rang, I went to ansewer it. When I came back my hubby was looking at the laptop. It was the g-spot, squirting forum. He has tried to get me to squirt, I dont think it will happen. I have always had a problem getting wet, and I am afraid he is sitting himself up for disappointment. I love my hubby very much and we dont have a problem in the area of sex. But he wants to do this, and from what I read, it does sound like fun!!
It goes deeper than "fun", it's sexuality/sensuality - not "horny" sex.
How do you feel when you make love to your husband? Why do you feel you don't get wet. There is an art in making love between two people, that goes beyond "normal" sex, it's intimate, filled with "feelings" deep inside your stomach, a lust, love and togetherness.
Squirting you can also learn to do on your own, but you have to learn sensuaity, how to get in tune with your body, what it likes and doesn't like, and have no fear of your body, you feel beautiful, you know you are beautiful, every part of your body, and your not afraid to show any part of your body to your partner.
You can't just play in that area and wait for it to happenIn my opinion, it's pressure, release, and feeling sensual, sexy, orgasmic, ready.. if you are not totally in-tune with your body. It's rewarding to be, WC started a thread about books/videos to see/read ... She's the queen of knowledge and sensuality, perhaps have a look at a few of her suggestions.
Never, say never.... I didn't "re-learn" my body again until 40 and I will never look back now...
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
We have never had issues before, I am 31 yrs old, I have always had this problem. We use lube and it seems to work just fine. I love my hubby and would do anything in the world for him. I am short, and put on a few pounds after having children, my youngest is 16 months old. I do feel a little weird about my body. But he has touched and saw every inch. I dont try to hide myself from him, it is what it is. I gave him two beautiful boys, in return. I will gladly deal with a less flattering body. Slowly but surly it is falling off.. I can look at him and it makes me feel all tingly. My bf says we have been married for 12 yrs and we are still in the honeymoon stage. I am afraid lack of wetness=lack of squirt.
I would suggest that you experiment yourself that's how I was able to "find" the capability of doing this, at around 44 years of age
Like everything I think, finding and practise makes perfect... It's something you have never experienced before, you don't know whether or not a lack of wetness in general will affect it, or change your whole life
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
I purchased a gspot vibe. I cant wait to play. My hubby doesnt like me to play by myself, he likes to be there..We were fooling around and I felt as if I had to pee. He put his fingers back in, his kunckles we pressing very hard against my leg, in kinda hurt. I asked him to straighten them and we got in a little anal play. My hubby wont bite on that issue, but I wish he would. That is a whole different thread!I think if its gonna happen we are alost there.
Alot of men feel that if they can't do it they failed , gently let him know you need to play first to find, and then you will talk to him, guide him because no one does it better than your "mate"...
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Some women just can't squirt, and some can have gushing ejaculations. I've been able to release some fluid with just clitoral stimulation, but I was never able to do it before until fairly recently... and I've never experienced a g-spot orgasm (yet).Squirting isn't all it's cracked up to be, honestly. It's a separate thing from orgasm, the only thing you're really missing out on is wet sheets lol. So don't fret over it if you can't make it happen, it's connection with your partner that really matters.
How can you see where you're going if you spend your whole life looking over your shoulder? –Naughty Ninja
About anything between two consenting adults, especially those that are in love, who share open honest communication is "fun".
I am not an OB/Gyn, so I don't know how much one (squirting) is related to the other (being wet). My SO squirts sometimes, which leads to a very wet "play area", whether it is the sheets, the furniture, the interior of the car, etc. Other times she does not squirt and her "degree of wetness" appears to be about the same all of the time.
Frankly, I think we ae in tume with one another better at times than at others. We are more focused on each other in a sensual and sexual manner than others and I think this has more to do with it than anything else.
If I woke up in your shoes... I would remove all expectations from your intimacy with your partner and just let it lead you. No expectations = no disappointments and what is better than that?
We have agreed to stop trying and if he does something that feels good to me, he will continue. We are at the stage in life to try new things and ways of pleasure as long as both of us agrees. Oh well if it happens it happens. I have never been not satisfied, and neither has he.
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