Sex in your 30's

**mommaoftwo** · 09-24-2011 07:33 PM

My husband and I are in our early 30's and in the last 3 months sex has been different, good different. Its like we are newlyweds again. Not complaining, but I would like to try new ways. We have tried adding a vibe, but that makes my husband a little antsy because he thinks I like it more than him. I want to try new styles. We tried finding the g-spot, didnt turn out good, as I predicted he felt bad because he didnt get a squirt. I had a really intense orgasam,but not something we can do everyday it tires me out to easy. I dont know what to try, any suggestions??

**mrdee** · 10-27-2011 07:56 PM

Hey mommaoftwo! I think I know what you mean! I am 29 and my wife is 34. Within the last year or a little less we've been having more sex than we've ever had before. Mainly trying new things too. We've made some purchases online for some toys for couples that have been very fun and well worth it. At first I thought my wife may like the toys more, but turns out she likes them to have some fun, but likes it when its me and her to accomplish all the good stuff! We purchased a weVibe 2 which has been incredible, and also got a male gspot vibrator. Yes it was kinda scary at first, but once we were comfortable with it, its incredible. We generally use that at the same time she goes down on me and the weVibe is perfect for just about any position weve tried. Needless to say we're trying some new things and experimenting more with toys and its amazing! Hope this helps!?!?!

**jns** · 10-31-2011 11:43 PM

Originally Posted by mommaoftwo

My husband and I are in our early 30's and in the last 3 months sex has been different, good different. Its like we are newlyweds again. Not complaining, but I would like to try new ways. We have tried adding a vibe, but that makes my husband a little antsy because he thinks I like it more than him. I want to try new styles. We tried finding the g-spot, didnt turn out good, as I predicted he felt bad because he didnt get a squirt. I had a really intense orgasam,but not something we can do everyday it tires me out to easy. I dont know what to try, any suggestions??

If you are not too squeamish and your husband is up for it you can massage his prostrate. Look up [prostrate massage] in wiki. Does he like giving oral?

**jns** · 10-31-2011 11:44 PM

Originally Posted by mommaoftwo

My husband and I are in our early 30's and in the last 3 months sex has been different, good different. Its like we are newlyweds again. Not complaining, but I would like to try new ways. We have tried adding a vibe, but that makes my husband a little antsy because he thinks I like it more than him. I want to try new styles. We tried finding the g-spot, didnt turn out good, as I predicted he felt bad because he didnt get a squirt. I had a really intense orgasam,but not something we can do everyday it tires me out to easy. I dont know what to try, any suggestions??

If you are not too squeamish and your husband is up for it you can massage his prostrate. Look up [prostrate massage] in wiki. Does he like giving oral?

**sp346** · 11-01-2011 01:09 PM

Do you think you may be into a little bondage. You can get some basic starter versions, or just use stuff at home. Read some books on technique. You can do the good old BJ, with different techniques. Maybe some role playing. How about mixing it up like adding the vide while husband is inside of you, or double penetration with husband and toy at the same time. Different positions - there are millions. Transitioning between positions while never pulling out. Non intercouse sex like masturbating in front of partner, cumming between the breasts, sexting, phone sex. Giving or receiving oral while partner is still asleep - waking up to that pleasure is intoxicating.

Hope these are some helpful suggestions.

**AshleeM** · 11-01-2011 03:46 PM

I can personally vouch for the prostate idea! If he's an open minded guy he won't be disappointed. I recently got my husband one of those Aneros toys after reading a review of it at *removed outbound link* , and he really loves the thing! He says that the orgasm is much more intense and the amount of semen could put someone's eye out! lol.

**mommaoftwo** · 11-03-2011 06:44 PM

Thanks all for the great pointers and ideas! I am so excited to try them. Love this website!

**LilahX** · 11-06-2011 02:00 AM

Don't give up hope lol I'm nearly 60 and we're still trying and finding new things. Age and time will bring more confidence in both of you. I have to say that if your partner is 'antsy' about something as simple as a vibe then you have a way to go in the 'lets spice things up' game. Before you even think about what and how make sure you have some good, honest, non-judgemental conversations where you both speak, but also listen. Sounds like he has insecurities either about his own prowess or not knowing how you feel about it.

Once you both feel you can openly suggest anything and discuss it honestly, then the world is your oyster. Don't be put off by the elusive hunt for the G-spot or being able to squirt. Having a gspot orgasm does not automatically mean you will squirt. some women do, some never do (hand up here).

They key to a fantastic and exciting sex life is to be honest, don't judge and believe in the strength of your rship.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-06-2011 02:14 AM

Oh so great to read that post there mam

I agree there is something about maturity, you've seen it all, but yet, not experienced it all until you are older.....The communication and discussions, laughter and experiementation with no inhibitions through trust and love is exciting as you well, get older, not that far off from where you are 48 but you know I still act 38 and I suspect so do you

I agree with the squirting thing as well... The G-spot is so interesting, why it took me so long to find that well I again imagine, bak then guys were too busy doing their thing than worrying about how to make a woman feel like a "real woman".........

Belief is everything in yourself as much as your relationship and that's it's real.............

**mrdee** · 11-09-2011 05:47 PM

Everything here is great for spicing things up! Totally agree on the Aneros purchase that AM has mentioned! We recently got one of those and it definitely puts things at a new level. Incredible toy and an amazing experience! GET ONE!

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