Thread: What do guys really like in bed from a girl?

I want to try new stuff with my boyfriend. Been together a little over a year, i believe we both need to change stuff or do something new. I would like to take control over what we do one night. What do you guys like to enjoy from your girl or wish she would do to you or with you? He isnt exactly open about what he likes, neither am i. I get t embarrassed or ashamed to ask to. most the time when i do he isnt really in the mood to tlk. Also when do you guys wish she would just jump on you or start something?
Theres time i have wanted to attack him but wasnt sure if he was in the mood or even wanted me to touch him.
# questions i really need help with,
What would guys wish there girl would do and enjoy from there girl?
How can us girls know when the right moment is or is there even a right moment?
Would guys prefer to let the girl take control sometimes?
Just dying to know what to do to different to try and surprise him.

My husband personally likes when I give him head, and he loves it when I ask for anal. I normally don't like anal because it feels like I'm using the bathroom, but we found a position that doesn't hurt me nor feel like I'm going to the bathroom, and it keeps us face to face.

First you need to communicate and make him feel that you can both talk about anything. Once over that hill then pry him on what HE likes. Every man is different and no two guys would give you the same answer. If your the agressor then see if he gets turned on by it or is he turned off and feel like it's his job(yes some guys feel this way). So no magic answers but COMMUNICATE

I personally would love it if my wife would take charge every now and then. To be the initiator would be nice too. I guess the right time to start something would be when he's not too engrossed in something. I'm sure if its just one of those nights when you're just watching TV together, go ahead and attack. As for what to do once in bed, try something and then guage his responce. I'm sure by now you should be able to read his body language. Let his responces guide you.

Men are visual so use lingerie, get naked turn around bend over open your goodies for her sight to enjoy (is such a turn on for me), Also, when giving he head, do a good job with the balls...slow, make sure you are gentle but suck and lick those bad boys.....in the middle of having sex, stop go down on him and finish him off with your mouth, buy a vibrator and ask him to use it on you....all those things are really a turn on for me....but the most important thing is the right attitude....flirt with him during the day.....make sure he knows that you want your brain fuc.....up that night...good luck!

Regarding your questions, here's my $0.05...

> What would guys wish their girl would do and enjoy from their girl?
Hmmm, a good start for me is 1) an adventurous attitude, 2) she's wearing a fun dress, 3) we create a list of places we've never done it, 4) randomly pick one or two, and 5) GO!

> How can us girls know when the right moment is or is there even a right moment?
Duh, we're guys... it's always the right moment! Well, whenever I look at my watch it is for me

> Would guys prefer to let the girl take control sometimes?
Definitely mix it in, and the more you show you really need US vs. IT the better!

My guy likes it dirty porno style. Hardcore blow jobs and stuff. Sometimes I google video search "hardcore porn" or "rough (edit) " to get some tips. Also, guys like when you take charge. You can really make a drastic change in sex by just critiquing a few things. Request changes in positions, "I really like it when you (edit) me from behind," or just a few simple words, " (edit) me harder." If you really want to get him going, walk up to him and whisper in his ear, "I want you now," then grab his hand and lead him to the bedroom. You don't have to make a HUGE change to make it more enjoyable. Starting slow will make it less awkward for the both of you. Hope that helps!

Thanks for the advice. I will give them all a try and see where it gets us. Its been 2 weeks since we have seen each other, so i hope things will go well.

I totally agree with you....after 17 years of marriage and magic in bed, the best foreplay starter for us is communicating, talking before ,during and after. Of course the topics very at each level...lol....he likes very much now for me to talk dirty to him and tell him my pretend fantasies and desires, he also loves for me to stimulate myself for him while preforming oral with each other.

Originally Posted by Macdawgg

First you need to communicate and make him feel that you can both talk about anything. Once over that hill then pry him on what HE likes. Every man is different and no two guys would give you the same answer. If your the agressor then see if he gets turned on by it or is he turned off and feel like it's his job(yes some guys feel this way). So no magic answers but COMMUNICATE