Thread: 3some help please!!

Boyfriend wants to try a 3some with someone and i would like to do it too, but how do we find the girl we both like? and how do i get over my fears about it. I feel like he might change his mind about us and just want the other girl. or she be better then me and him not want me anymore. Very confused on what to do and think about it. Please help. Need advice on what to do!

I would stay away from it even if you want it too. Because what if he starts wanting her that would be terrible.. But if your bf wouldn't do something like that, go for it I guess.

It is difficult when you are marriage or very much in love. If this is the case, I wouldn't recommended but if you want to do it (thinking about it make you horny) and you are not crazy in love with your boyfriend, then by all means, try it....just don't take it personal and expect to feel weird afterwards, but it also could be amazing.......is all about how much you want to experience or how much fire you have inside of you.....

Be safe, and enjoy life to the fullest (responsibly though)

When you are very much in love, a third person may cause problems....since you'll become jealous...who wouldn't....

Just want to let you know that I would love to have a threesome some day...but I don't think it will happen since my wife wouldn't go for it ever.....but I have more than enough with my wife...i love her....

Im 18 hes almost 27. been together a little over a yr. Sex is great and amazing, i just think its something thats on the guy list he wants to try. I have taken alot off that list that he has but i like to make him happy and be pleased. I get jealous fast and easily. Should me and him just talk about it all and see where it goes about it? If so how do i bring it up

I would say that until you can get over your jealousy issues, it would be best to wait. Sharing partners is difficult, and jealously is a big problem for a lot of people. Take your time finding someone you are both interested in.

I personally have been involved in one threesome where I was in love with both men. That went smoothly for me. But when I had the bright idea to find myself a gf and give my fiance a first since he had never had two women at once. He actually was against it because he knew it would cause issues and knew I would become jealous. If I were you I wouldn't go through with it. The likelyhood of him wanting the other woman instead of you is very slim but.. how will you know if he likes her more? If she is better? If she feels tighter? If he is thinking of her long after she is gone and it is just the two of you. I still am haunted by the images of him and her.. of listening to her scream.. trust me dear it isn't worth the heartache. If there is any chance that you may want to spend the rest of your life with this man then I would suggest staying away.. you don't want to live with the what if's and bad memories..

Originally Posted by kieran_jane

I personally have been involved in one threesome where I was in love with both men. That went smoothly for me. But when I had the bright idea to find myself a gf and give my fiance a first since he had never had two women at once. He actually was against it because he knew it would cause issues and knew I would become jealous. If I were you I wouldn't go through with it. The likelyhood of him wanting the other woman instead of you is very slim but.. how will you know if he likes her more? If she is better? If she feels tighter? If he is thinking of her long after she is gone and it is just the two of you. I still am haunted by the images of him and her.. of listening to her scream.. trust me dear it isn't worth the heartache. If there is any chance that you may want to spend the rest of your life with this man then I would suggest staying away.. you don't want to live with the what if's and bad memories..

TOTALLY AGREE!!!!! - don't feel because he wants it, you need to do it...you are 18 and have a life ahead of you...time is in your side to experience all things sex, son don't think you need to rush anything....most likely you bf won't care too much about you to want to have a three some....you should be more than enough if he were to love you with all his strength.

So......if you love him, don't do it...if you don't love him and just like him and are a very horny girl (18...not a woman until 21 in my book), by all means but just keep in mind that someday you'll need to tell your husband or love of your life all you did and he may not like it.

I completely agree with everything that has been said. I have had numerous three somes with my husband. The most recent being 2 years ago after our son was born and everytime we had done it it had gotten to the point to where I was like out of the picture and I got out of bed and went into the other room and downed like 3 beers and cried . Trust me ssweetheart DON'T DO IT! It will just bring too much heart ache and riddle your brain ALWAYS even if he doesn't acknowledge the girl or anything like that YOU will ALWYAS remember it.