Thread: porn is no big deal

Originally Posted by hotdogg

porn really is no big deal!

i would say 99% of men use porn, i was in the army and all the guys i knew used porn. most men admit to using porn, all my husbands friends use porn, i know because they buy porn dvds from my husbands brother.

using porn is purely for masterbation purposes, basically it is the lazy option to engaging in intercourse, intercourse takes effort, and more time. people can be and are lazy at times.

also men do not look at porn because they are not happy with there woman, you could be miss world and your hubby would still look at porn (LAZY OPTION) to engaging in sex.

has long has your partner meets your sexual needs and loves you, their really is nothing to worry about.

frankly i would be more worried if my hubby did not look at porn because he might be into something worse, IE, he might be gay or into hookers or heaven forbid kids.

i have watched all the porno dvds that are in my house and they are no big deal.

ladies if you discover your man has a secret porn stash! firstly so do 99% of all men. also it no way reflects on you or how you look.;)

If Porn is not a big deal,
then what the big deal is ?

if Porn is a way to test your husband's sexuality,
then you need to test your brain first.

ok here goes... I am 29 years old,
I have been married for almost 10 years...
Our relationship, like most have had ups and downs... Ups meaning...weekend canoe trips, road trips, laughs, good times ....downs ranging from financial difficulties to a year and a half ago i found out my husband had an affair with a "good friend" that lasted for over 3 years . He claims the affair is over, and i believe it is...as the other woman has moved away and i have not found anything AT ALL suspisios of him doing so. I am grateful that we worked through it (at least i am conned (again) to believe its over) , but we discussed in therapy how if he were to be lying about something elese and not being up front with me, it would kill me all over, and he awknowledged and assured myself, himself and the therapist he was not/would not do that and if he did he would be upfront. Overtime, as devestating and hard this has been, i have learned to accept that he did this to "us" and go on with my life. It actually made our relationship stronger (i thought). Well i work nights and came home 2 days ago and went on the internet cookies and found that he deleted the stuff he was hiding and kept the stuff he wanted me to think he was seeing, like football guys.com and ESPN stuff, not Paris hiltona dn pamela andersons ****. It was porn...again, like a year and a half ago i was devestated...he says he likes porn and feels ashamed that he does...i try to let him know...that it hurts more to lie that the fact he likes porn.....I am not very comfortable about it, but i can accept it, if it is not sick and crazy porn (like childen pornography), but i did wish it was more tasteful and a bit softer than that. I can live with the fact that he likes porn, and it almost turns me on for some sick strange reason....but then again...it makes me feel ugly and dirty at times.....
I am just worried now that he is lying about other things. He states he is not, but he is not very credible from past expirences noted above. I am not relly sure if i should invest into this relationship. I have been trying to gain my independence in case he is lying and i will be able to make it if he does hurt me again, but that is difficult when i love the person and want to be with him for the rest of my life. We have an 8 year old son...he is working, and the bread winer,i am one year away from my masters degree, working nights. I have no income.The house i live in is his parents in his name...the car i drive is his...my only financial worth i have is a digital camera i would not trade in for anything....I find it difficult to finish school because i have a hard time trusting him when i leave.....as i know he stays up and is on the computer alot and the lyer is most always one step ahead of the victim....
But all in all i love him, and feel, with all of his wrongs he has done and mistakes he has made, loves me, as i know he would of left a long time ago.........put aside these problems and he is a good person. He could have kicked me to the curb like my mother and father did when i was 18, but he states he loves me and would not leave me. I dont think he would leave me homeless , carless and with no money...I want to be with him, but i hate living in this fear.....The only people who I have felt truly believe in me and support me are his brother and his parents (who live in another country). I just hope there are no more suprises in store...i think i have had all i can handle in this relationship

lol! is that your idea of an intelligent response?

i have seen quite a few of your responses in other threads and you sound very ignorant!

that was for housewife.

Originally Posted by hotdogg

lol! is that your idea of an intelligent response?

i have seen quite a few of your responses in other threads and you sound very ignorant!

and you sound insecure.

Originally Posted by hotdogg

just because you are in a relationship it does not mean the rest of the world stops!


you sound like an insecure person to me, however someone who is confident about the way the look and their relationship would not feel threatened by porn.

no, the world doesn't stop. but keep in mind that just because the world keeps going it does not mean people have to get off on naked images of strangers.

i understand why you would suspect i was insecure. a confident person has much less trouble understanding why their spouse would need/want porn - someone who's insecure would have much more trouble with that. porn doesn't do women any favors, either. women's bodies have a tendency to change with time. porn, however, remains pretty constant with a steady supply of young girls with tight bodies.

which is what porn is all about, isn't it. the industry - or the users - don't care much about anything but their bodies, do they?

i mean, i see all these women - and young girls - posting things on this site: i'm bleeding, what's wrong with me? how do i get him to be more gentle with me when i'm giving head? why don't i get wet?

it must be a lot of fun for a young girl to be put in a room with three guys and pumped mercilessly, jizz sprayed all over her face, called a **** & *****. and then we all go home.

i'll bet she feels great about herself. i bet the guys care about how wet she gets or whether or not she's bleeding.

and the guy jacking off in front of his computer, watching it all happen - he cares about how she felt, too.

i'm not threatened by porn. i'm sickened by it - largely because of the way it uses people and lies to them.

look at what you yourself have come to believe is reality: that you'll never find a guy who can resist the allure of porn. that you'll never find a guy that would actually think you are special enough to ignore his natural tendency to check out every short skirt & tight *** that walks by - and reserve those glances for you, and you alone.

porn taught you that, sweet pea. porn, and the culture that taught you porn was normal.



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You can hate porn all you want but it will always be around. Porn is not evil. Murder is evil, yet that gets shown on all television programs without thought but sex, something almost ALL people do sometime or another in their lives is seen as evil. this makes absolutely no sense to me. You can think porn is evil but that just means you are undereducated and insecure. Get over it. We all have sex.

Originally Posted by PixieDuzt

undereducated and insecure. Get over it. We all have sex.

Are you calling decent “undereducated” ,so in your theory to be a scientist , you have to become a porn star.
Lol

Originally Posted by PixieDuzt

You can hate porn all you want but it will always be around. Porn is not evil. Murder is evil, yet that gets shown on all television programs without thought but sex, something almost ALL people do sometime or another in their lives is seen as evil. this makes absolutely no sense to me. You can think porn is evil but that just means you are undereducated and insecure. Get over it. We all have sex.

you're equating sex and porn - another lie the industry has sold you.

to be a scientist , you have to become a porn star.

Well, Asia Carrera (http://en.wikipedia*****/wiki/Asia_Carrera)is a member of MENSA (http://en.wikipedia*****/wiki/Mensa_International). And no, I did not state that you had to be a porn star to be a scientist but the most well rounded and educated people I have ever met agree that porn is a good thing and most of the naive and ignorant people I have met believe that porn is evil. It is just a correlation and we all know that correlation does not mean causation, but it is noteworthy.