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About LinkBacksWhat is porn if it isn't sex? is it magic?! cause I love magic! maybe thats why I like porn so much! WOW!Originally Posted by whilhelm
What is porn if it isn't sex? is it magic?! cause I love magic! maybe thats why I like porn so much! WOW!
Porn & addiction...sex out of context
On a cold, dark night, there's nothing better than a blazing fire in the fireplace. You can pile on the wood and let it burn nice and warm. It's safe, warm, relaxing and romantic. Now take that same fire out of the fireplace (which was built for it) and drop it in the middle of the living room. Suddenly it becomes destructive. It can burn down the whole house and kill everyone inside. Sex is like that fire. As long as it's expressed in the protective commitment of a marriage relationship, it's wonderful, warm and romantic. But porn takes sex outside that context.
Porn's Image of Sex
One of the most vital parts of mental environment is a healthy idea of who we are sexually. If these ideas are polluted, a critical part of who we are becomes twisted. The porn culture tells you that sex, love and intimacy are all the same thing. In porn, people have sex with total strangers -- people they just met. All that matters is my satisfaction. It doesn't matter whose body I'm using, as long as I get it. Porn gets you to think that sex is something you can have anytime, anywhere, with anyone, with no consequences.
What Sex is Really About
The problem with porn's shallow perspective is that relationships are not built on sex, but on commitment, caring and mutual trust. In that context, like fire in the fireplace, sex is wonderful. Being with someone who loves and accepts you, someone who is committed to you for your whole lives together, someone you can give yourself completely to, that is what makes sex really great.
Lets not forget that Ron Jeremy has his masters degree in special education(http://en.wikipedia*****/wiki/Ron_jeremy). Harry Reems is a trained theater actor(http://en.wikipedia*****/wiki/Harry_Reems). Scott Styles, a former member of NASA, that's right NASA, is now a porn star(http://en.wikipedia*****/wiki/Scott_Styles). And then you have Sharon Mitchell, she's a pioneer for safe sex, founded A.I.M, the testing agency for the adult industry, and also has a PH.d in...wait for it...human sexuality(http://en.wikipedia*****/wiki/Sharon_Mitchell). And Asia Carrera has also played Carnegie Hall, at the age of 15 just an added bonus. Wow these porn stars are absolutely stupid...(insert rolling eyes smiley here)
Id like to know on what grounds is Porn evil? I'm don't want opinions, I want facts here, so please feel free to cite them with links.
And this doesn't happen in every day life? Seriously any college campus, **** high schoolers are doing this now, this activity happens every night. **** this happens in every soap opera, sitcom, and drama on television. Not just porn.
Also some FYI, in the adult industry there are no strangers, just coworkers. By stating that you are stating the fictional aspects of the industry, and the FANTASY situations, not what is reality.
porn is not sex anymore than a grocery store is food. it's just a mechanism that sells sex - images, depictions.
are you wanting me to believe that if the porn industry disappeared, then there would be no sex in the world?
this seems very misguided to me. you want links & facts proving that porn is evil?? it's a subjective judgement. you can decide whether you believe it is evil or not.
your list of links certainly don't prove porn is a good thing. who ever implied porn stars were stupid? we could trade links all day - you could show me bright, accomplished self-actualized porn stars and i could show you emotionally damaged, abused ones.
would it prove it was evil?
i suggest you surf some more. read the posts of the women whose self images and confidence in their husbands have been shattered by porn. read the posts of girls whose boyfriends treat them like masturbatory toys - just recepticles - because their heads are chock full of the depictions of sex that porn offers.
if you are happy to have that - if you desire a husband who regularly jacks off to other girls, then you undoubtedly won't find it evil. i would venture that you are worth more than, deserving of a little more commitment than that. but who am i to say what you should want?
if i showed you links to articles that document the gruesome details and devastating effects of murder - would it prove to you that murder was evil? only if your perspective saw it that way.
if you want facts - you could get them from the net or from whatever organization you chose to survey. you'd get biased reports.
why don't you just pick a neighborhood anywhere in the nation - just find one that's convenient for you. do 2 things. find out how many homes have husbands that are addicted to porn. then talk to their wives.
i'm confident you'd gather all the factual data you needed to determine that porn is, in fact, not a good thing for our culture - despite what all pixie's "smart, educated" friends may report.
Yes, porn addiction hurts relationships. So does alcohol addiction. And internet addiction. And video game addiction. And work addiction. And _____ addiction. That doesn't make these things inherently evil.
Addiction and addictive personalities are toxic to any interpersonal relationship, regardless of the object or activity of choice. Many people watch porn and drink alcohol and work without it negatively effecting
the rest of their lives. But these stories aren't as sensational, and it's so much more interesting to reference that one post you read from a woman whose husband's addiction to porn is ruining their relationship, as opposed to the millions of people who watch/read/look at porn without negative repercussions.
And sure, there is a small percentage of people who are going to take sex advice from some misleading porn. These are the same type of people who think imitating Jackass stunts is a great idea. But these people are, by no stretch of the imagination, in the majority. Most people, even those who watch porn, are just like you and I, and understand that what happens on tv is fictional, and may not be something they want to try in real life, rather it be having sex with the pizza boy or having a high speed chase through New York City. But, again, us boring people, who just occasionally watch porn for fun or to supplement our sex lives, we aren't quite as exciting, and aren't discussed nearly as much.
What you are choosing to do is point at a car accident in the paper (or in front of your very own home) and say, "See, cars are evil," while you refuse to acknowledge all the people quietly driving around.
i think you're wrong about that. people typically aren't interested in hearing about the negative impact of porn.
but i do think you've uncovered a very significant point - if you subtract the morality of it, porn is not different from alcohol or any other addictive substance.
I agree completely.(but if you believe you will never find a man who will get his sole sexual fulfillment from you & you alone - if you believe that is impossible - you've bought the biggest lie being fed to women today.)
no i have not bought the biggest lie! i am realistic, just because you are in a relationship it does not mean the rest of the world stops! people still find other people attractive, people still have fantasies, and just because you watch a porn dvd does not mean you are cheating on your partner or want too cheat on them.
you sound like an insecure person to me, however someone who is confident about the way the look and their relationship would not feel threatened by porn.
so .....take me back to school I spent 20 years and I did not learn that to be educated to have to a be porn watcher.
well I in my life experience, it happen to be the opposite "I am talking about meeting people".
most of the porn stars and hookers .. strippers...etc., they don't come from rich families , these women started their lives poor and desperate for money, and sadly they turn down the wrong way.
and every one watch them should be ashamed of looking at some one's daughter who went the wrong direction.
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