Thread: Husband has problems with erections

Originally Posted by jns

An erection requires many things to happen at the right time, so if something is missing, the erection won't happen, so yes, it can be OK with a gf and not with a wife. Other options are OK with both, OK with neither and OK with wife but not with gf.

Somehow I was thinking that if you have good relationship with wife but want something new, it can be possible to have erections with both. I still can't understand how it was impossible to get it up with me for 2 months only and then it works normal again. I seduced him yesterday in a new manner and we had a wild and wonderful sex. May be the simple boredom the reason for not getting it up? If not medical (since he didn't change his medication for 10 years), may emotions like guilt or shame be a problem for a lack of erection?

Hi
At 50 He could start to experience low testosterone or circulatory problems.
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It would be hard to prove it was caused by a relationship with another woman.
If you suspect something keep an eye on his mobile phone-Dose he keep it locked- is he distracted- spending more time on the net ?

Good luck

I am 100% sure that he is not cheating now since we have sex, not often but I will try to have it at least once a week. Also, he is so busy with work and we call back and forth a lot. I have access to his email and I started checking cell phone bills. He keeps his cell phone on him but I know that I can take it any time from him if I feel like. I still can't forget this email. He denied writing it and pretended it was a spam. I try to believe him but it is hard because the thought that he couldn't have sex with me while at the same moment this email appeared in his account is very humiliating.
I try to bring more imagination in our sexual life. I used to be very creative 10 years ago but lost this skill since life was little stressful last years.

You have already stated that you would forgive him, That things have improved and you have gone from having sex once a month to every week. Even wild crazy good sex. I understand your concern about the letter, but given that you wouldnt leave, why is it so improtant to know the answer. Dwelling on it is only going to bother you!