Thread: Be Dominant!

Hey ladies (and gents!),

I have a great, loving, supportive partner, and we have fantastic communication! However, I have a tiny bit of a problem with our (otherwise) amazing sex life! I really, really would like for him to be more dominant during sex from time-to-time, and although he isn't into some of the extreme things I've requested (ex. choking) - that's ok! I'm not out to make him feel uncomfortable, especially during sex... I want us both to enjoy it. While he's been open to trying out spanking, and things of that nature - he is primarily worried about whether or not he'll hurt me. I've tried to tell him that we could always establish a safe word, so that he knows absolutely when to stop! He's open to this idea, so I'm thankful. However, when he asks me for specific examples of what he should do to be more dominant... I fail to find a good answer! We're open with toys (he's already accompanied me to get my first toy, and has commented that he'd love to get a remote-controlled type where he can control my pleasure at will, and we've talked about handcuffs/blindfolds)! But what kinds of things do you think I could suggest to my lover, besides - "You know, be aggressive!" ?? Any suggestions would be great! What do you like to do with your lover??? I try to tell him - pull my hair, spank me, bite me, scratch me, grab me in all the places it hurts, thrust me until you've cummed, force me!, stick your fingers in my mouth while you take me from behind, etc - but what would you suggest? Perhaps I'm asking him for too much and scaring him off???