21 years old male, small penis

**latino** · 10-24-2011 10:14 PM

Well first of all I apologize if my english is not clear...
I know you probably have read several threads about this same topic however, here is the thing:
I'm still a virgin (not precisely because my small penis), im still virgin cause my own choice. I've measured my penis and it's bout (from the pubic symphysis): 4.5in
and from where it actually starts its bout: 4.3
its circumference is bout : 4.3 a bit less
Right now Im going out with a girl but Im kind of afraid that: either I wont last during sex or that It wont be enough to satisfy her. I really like her and wouldnt like her to go away just because I'm not good in bed. Do u think I should try to go out with another girl, and try be4 I do her? (not like a hooker, I'm not that bad looking so I could just try with another girl)Think this as a one night stand, I mean, dont try to tell me that if she loves me she wont care, cause I wanna be a really good lover and satisfy her. Are there any advices? Ive heard "doggy" position would be good to help me. What bout her on top riding me? would it work out or not really.
appreciate ur comments

**jns** · 10-24-2011 10:34 PM

Learning about how to act during intercourse takes time and practice. A one night stand will not give you enough practice and make you good any more than taking one guitar lesson will make a person a guitar virtuoso. Going out with another girl for whatever reason would probably screw up your relationship with the first one.

When the time comes, confess that you are a virgin and ask her what she wants you to do? Learn with her. Be attentive to her needs and she will give you plenty of chances to become better. Be gentle with your hands. Maybe be willing to give her oral if she wants it. Be slow and careful.

**latino** · 10-24-2011 10:46 PM

Thanks for replying... Well I know a one night stand wouldnt make a real difference, however, experience might help a bit when the day comes to do it with her. Still you think it wouldnt be a good idea to try with some other girls be4 her?

**demotivator** · 10-25-2011 01:17 AM

Don't be obsessed with sex (at least not in a neurotic way). You should look at it as a great way to have fun. Take your time, laugh. That is 50% of being good in bed.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-25-2011 02:42 AM

Latino, think if she found that out or even if not and you married her and then told her you lost your virginity to someone else, because you lacked communication through fear how would she feel do you think?

If you want to learn something don't learn penetration learn the art of knowing a womans body and making her feel comfortable, orgasmic, her body, a womans body... If you love her and have feelings she will too...Learn how to touch her...Boys can go into this more

**lizzardb63** · 10-25-2011 07:52 AM

First off, don't jump in the sack with another girl just to have sex before her...I don't think that would go over well at all. Second, sex is something that two people work on together in a relationship. Even if you've had sex 100 times, it doesn't mean you're going to have her all figured out after 1 time of having sex. It takes communication, honestly, trust, and patience. Tell her that you're a virgin (if she doesn't know) and let her know that you aren't "experienced"...girls understand that type of thing (not saying guys don't), but if you're honest with her about it from the get-go, I think she will be more understand and open than if you were to go and sleep with someone else and "pretend" that you're experienced. Honesty, being open, trusting each other, and just taking your time because trust me...sex is fun...is what's going to make it good.

And if you don't last long...there are techniques to making yourself last longer, but that's a whole other conversation.

**Little_Man_in_the_Boat** · 10-26-2011 08:29 AM

Actually a lesbian has NO penis, and they I assume can still pleasure each other.

To achieve orgasm a penis is not neccessary, a lot of caressing the body with your hands in a slow gentle way is what works for me, do it for hours on end but it must be ever so gentle like the wings of a butterfly, circle her abdomen, her back, her legs, front, sides and back, learn to kiss ever so gentle and so slowly, keep this up for many hours and experiment on what works and doesnt.

Look for **goose bumps** as that indicates whether its working or not.

You have to be mindful of feedback on your technique, if it dont work why ? Too hard, too soft, too slow, too fast, she's tired, shes inhibited (why is she inhibitied??), kiss her around the ears, the neck, her breasts, dont hone in on vulva or breasts.

You can very gentle with a lot of care, dont pull her hair that hurts and will instantly undo what you have achieved so far.

Shape your hands like you are holding a tennis ball and kinda knead her scalp with your nails, now remember dont scratch her scalp it has to be done very gentley and with finesse.

Drag down to the nape of her neck again i cant emphasize how important being **gentle** is, if you scrach her scalp it will hurt, thats not what you are trying to achieve.

Running your fingers through her hair is a pleasant feeling and will make her skin stand on end if its done correctly.

Cuddling is foreplay so cuddle her in a romantic kind of way dont rush it always take your time.

Kissing is the fourth state of courtship, and the final before making love.

Learn how to kiss ever so gentley and passionatley, make sure its not too wet your kissing, thats a turn off, it needs to be very gentle and make sure your breath is delicious, that means eating really healthy food lots of green veggies and fruit.

Make sure your teeth and breath pleasant and get in shape no beer bellies.

Clean hair, clean body, fit healthy is a turn on.

Women are excited when they are kissed around the neck, the whole body is an errogenous zone so caress it as long as needed to reach the plauteu of orgasm its ONLY then that you enter her, and not before.

Practice caressing your own body, it may sound stupid but thats where you need the feedback of your own touch to know what will work on her.

Caress your own abdomen, your own legs with your hands, around your own gentials to get an idea of what **feels** nice only after this experimentation will you know what feels good to her.

Oral sex works, even though the risks of disease are a potential problem, so I guess if you are good at it and know what to do and shes good with it well its a powerful tool in your tool kit.

I think you have to know what the women is comfortable with.

But I also think once she reaches a point she wont care because the pleausure will be so intense that nothing mostly will matter.

You have to know what works and what doesnt, caress with mindful care, thinking constantly is it working, if not change to something else.

Caressing is not RUBBING, its so light as really just glding your hands over her entire body ever so gently initially dont hone in like i said before those areas BREASTS AND VULVA.

CIRCLE MOTIONS OVER HER BODY, UP AND DOWN OVER AND UNDER, CONSTANTLY ...

Rim of her bottom, the outline of her vulva, just tickle those fine hair follicles coming out of each of those skin cells ...

Cirlce her breasts with your fingers, the sides of her breasts under her arm pits (try not to tickle her) in figure 8 motions ...

Look for wetness around her vulva that indicates its working ...

Eventually after your testicles are aching (blue balls) and IM not joking when I say this its probably time to enter her.

If you are both drenched in sweat from the foreplay you have reached the plateau stage and the onset of orgasm.

Just before she orgasms you enter her and hold on for wild ride of your life.

Thats how it should be done.

**lizzardb63** · 10-26-2011 10:50 AM

While these techniques may work... she has to be in the right mindset to have an orgasm. It may not be all fireworks for her not because of what YOU'RE doing, but because it takes a little...work, on her part also. It's quite mental actually, at least for some women. Some women may orgasm strictly off of physical aspects and not necessarily mental, but she might be nervous or inexperienced herself. Communicate and take things slow...you'll get there...and hopefully the place where Little_Man_in_The_boat is referring to. I just don't think it would happen over night...but that's just my opinion. SOme people may have experienced that right off the bat.

**Little_Man_in_the_Boat** · 10-27-2011 12:27 AM

I agree its like anything, nothing comes easy, your have to put a lot of effort into anything to get something out of it.

**LilahX** · 11-06-2011 02:27 AM

I totally understand how important this is to you and that it all seems pretty daunting but the more you stress the less likely you will be to enjoy it yourself or be able to give pleasure. Don't over think things and try to be relaxed. It's fantastic that you want to be 'good in bed' for your girl and you will only improve with age and time. I know you won't want to hear it but it takes time and lots of experience to become a good lover but that doesn't mean you can't (and won't) enjoy the journey. You have lots to learn, but oh what fun it will be!