Do I Expect Too Much to be Satisfied Sexually?

**lizzardb63** · 12-16-2011 12:35 PM

I agree with you that men should give and care as much as women, but you shouldn't be bothered by not having an orgasm EVERY TIME, because sex isn't ALL about orgasiming. It's a form of showing the other person that you care. There are things that I don't find pleasurable that my partner loves and even if I don't orgasm, I am still pleased. Although, if your man isn't trying ever to make you come or puts little effort into it, I can understand that. If you don't have an orgasm from time to time, just let it roll off your back and just take pride in the fact that you know how to please your man.

**sp346** · 12-19-2011 06:34 PM

Originally Posted by confusededguy

Gosh, I wish my wife felt like you do! I love giving her orgasms from oral sex. I don't really understand why she doesn't want it very often, but when she is starting to get close she usually wants me to enter her. I prefer getting her to climax from me being inside her (makes me feel like a man to do it with my penis) but I would like to do it both ways. I always feel a little more relaxed sexually when I help her climax before we have intercourse; I don't feel as concerned about finishing first if she has already come.

I am actually like your wife. My husband loves getting me off with oral, often multiple orgasms and I wasn't that into it. Part of it was a mental thing because I can't get my husband off on oral so I felt guilty. The other part was that it was too much stimulation and was just too much. Also, one of things I really like about sex is the skin contact and with oral, I feel there isn't as much skin to skin contact.

In regards to wanting to be entered when getting close, I feel that way too. As I am about to climax, I feel a need to feel filled. Using a toy or fingers (more than one) at that time works good.