Thread: sexually frustrated

I've never had an issue getting turned on, in fact me and my boyfriend sometimes joke that its near impossible to turn me off.. And I really do enjoy sex to an extent, but I never hit close to an orgasm.. infact my boyfriend gets me closer using his hands than actual intercourse. Also for some reason I just can't get my head around oral either, I just don't like recieving it...
I really don't get what's wrong with me in the sense that, I get so turned on, I'm so up for it and then when we're going it just sorta falls flat my end. Any tips or ideas of things I/we should/could be doing?
This isn't just a problem I've had with my current partner, I've kinda had this issue since I first became sexually active, and as the title suggests, I'm now just sexually frustrated. HELP!

Its just personal preference.

I am not a fan of oral either. It feels weird (and we've tried many different ways). Just don't love it. Its not awful, but I'd rather be doing something else. Its just who you are.

Do you ever use toys while having sex? Do you try lots of different things?

Also, try just relaxing and not worrying about an orgasm. I had the same issue for about a year -- I always thought too much. Clear your mind, and just relax. If you aren't opposed to drinking, have one or two first. Then get into something sexy, and do lots of hands on fun!

Well the guy I'm with now is into tying my wrists together and blindfolding me and stuff like that, while I'm rather into toys and teasing, so we've tried quite a good range of things between our personal preferences :P I kind of figured it might be something that would just natural come as I matured, but now it's just frustrating. I'll trying relaxing a bit more and trying not to think about it and see what happens. Thanks!

It took me about a year to get there. And I just had to stop thinking about it.

It takes time. You are exploring your body, what its capable of, what you enjoy, etc. With time and practice, it will come. That exploration and discovery can be part of the fun. I know it took me a while to start enjoying it, a few years to orgasm and even longer to enjoy oral. I guess I just had some hang ups with oral, so I just couldn't let myself go to enjoy it.

Your boyfriend may also not be doing oral correctly. Just explore together and you will enjoy things. There is so much to do sexually, that it will take your entire life to explore them. If you haven't find anything you like yet, not to worry. Keep exploring. I recommend reading the book "Guide to Getting It On"