Thread: Can my husband recover faster from lovemaking or must he wait 6 hours?

I have always found it interesting where people find information from. I think too much information comes from Hollywood, pornography in mainstream life, and from people who report things on websites or to friends. The first two items are due to producers wanting to manipulate people to make profit on them (e.g., the message than men can keep an erection all the time and that is what women want to sell endurance pills). The latter comes from inaccurate and non-precise information (e.g., size of penis or time of erection recovery).

Here is what I think I know about men. First, I think most men have a mild degree of control over erections. I use to despise this, but have come to accept it as normative. Men have some control related to thoughts, but for more men than not (and for me personally), you sometimes can’t prevent an erection from growing (I have always hated this passionately!!!) and there are times you can’t growth an erection (e.g., seconds after an organism or three male organism in 30 minutes) when you want too (also disliked this). There are things men can do - -such as thought control and being in differing environment – but I think most men have a mild degree of control over erections.

The reason I share this is to make a point – beyond you going to a thepiast or doctor about PGAD, you may want to explore with your husband where he (and you) are getting information from related to him not recovering fast enough.

Originally Posted by skippypeanutbutter

I have always found it interesting where people find information from. I think too much information comes from Hollywood, pornography in mainstream life, and from people who report things on websites or to friends. The first two items are due to producers wanting to manipulate people to make profit on them (e.g., the message than men can keep an erection all the time and that is what women want to sell endurance pills). The latter comes from inaccurate and non-precise information (e.g., size of penis or time of erection recovery).

Here is what I think I know about men. First, I think most men have a mild degree of control over erections. I use to despise this, but have come to accept it as normative. Men have some control related to thoughts, but for more men than not (and for me personally), you sometimes can’t prevent an erection from growing (I have always hated this passionately!!!) and there are times you can’t growth an erection (e.g., seconds after an organism or three male organism in 30 minutes) when you want too (also disliked this). There are things men can do - -such as thought control and being in differing environment – but I think most men have a mild degree of control over erections.

The reason I share this is to make a point – beyond you going to a thepiast or doctor about PGAD, you may want to explore with your husband where he (and you) are getting information from related to him not recovering fast enough.

He recovers fast by men standards, faster than all men according to my girlfriends! He wanted to take viagra because he want to always be hard so he can slip inside me when I go excited every hour. But today I finally convinced him not to take viagra cos I convinced him that I like being fingered just as much as I like intercoursing. So now he puts his finger when I need pleasure! Very lucky that I was able to convince him cos he actually asked his friend for viagra already but luckily his friend had none left.

Have you considered something like a hollow strap on? I'm not sure how you two feel about toys, but I've found them to be a nice addition to our collection, that way when I still want to go, even if he can't get an erection, we can still play and have fun.

Originally Posted by rosekitten

Have you considered something like a hollow strap on? I'm not sure how you two feel about toys, but I've found them to be a nice addition to our collection, that way when I still want to go, even if he can't get an erection, we can still play and have fun.

He doesnt like me using toys, makes him yell but he is ok when I use my finger now. But I ciuld use it if its hideable. Before he seemed angry about that until I did it with lingerie on and he found it nice to look at like a show. My friend let me use vibrating panties that was really nice so maybe your idea and the vib panty.

No, they actually make hollow strap-ons for men. They're designed so that he can put it on, and place his flaccid penis inside. They're basically designed so that both partners can still go, even if the man doesn't have an erection. When he does get hard again, he can just take it off.

Originally Posted by rosekitten

No, they actually make hollow strap-ons for men. They're designed so that he can put it on, and place his flaccid penis inside. They're basically designed so that both partners can still go, even if the man doesn't have an erection. When he does get hard again, he can just take it off.

Oh geee i don't know if he would agree to that, but maybe, actually i'm too scared to ask him lol. But its cool he finger me a lot today cos i was able to convince him that i like it as much as pen1s.