Thread: Advice needed !!

My boyfriend wants me to walk around naked in high heels,
I think i would be ok with doing it, except for the fact that i know he thinks im a little fat. and i dont want to gross him out and not want me anymore. Im not sure how to explain how i feel about it all to him either.


Also, He wants a 3some, i dont have any girl friends that are bi or that i know would even want to or know someone else. Any advice on how to find anyone? Ive tried websites and craiglist and i seem to find no one its starting to drive me insane.

Originally Posted by baby1010

My boyfriend wants me to walk around naked in high heels,
I think i would be ok with doing it, except for the fact that i know he thinks im a little fat. and i dont want to gross him out and not want me anymore. Im not sure how to explain how i feel about it all to him either.


Also, He wants a 3some, i dont have any girl friends that are bi or that i know would even want to or know someone else. Any advice on how to find anyone? Ive tried websites and craiglist and i seem to find no one its starting to drive me insane.

How long have you been together? How old are you two? Do you think you'll really be able to handle a 3-some? You seem to be very willing to bend over backwards for him. How do you feel about having a threesome? Be honest to yourself regardless of what he says/feels. Think about you before anything else.

As for your BF wanting you to walk around naked in heels seems normal to me. Little fat (your words) is not too much. Curvy is sexy. However, if you don't feel okay doing it, share how you feel.

I think you're better off with someone who just wants you and you alone.

Originally Posted by baby1010

i know he thinks im a little fat. and i dont want to gross him out and not want me anymore.

How do you know he thinks your fat? Did he say so or are you just assuming. Also, maybe he likes your "fat." Telling you are fat in itself is not bad, its how its said. If he puts you down about your weight, dump this guy now. Why would you want to be with somebody who may leave you because of a "little fat." Who isn't a "little fat" and wishes they could lose a few pounds. A lot of us women keep thinking we are fat when all our guys are thinking is how sexy we look naked and just want to ravish us, with the lights on (see another post here about lights on or off). The fact that your bf wants to see you naked sounds like he is turned on by your body. Go ahead and do it. But if he makes any negetive comments about your weight, dump him on the spot.

About the 3some, it can be fun, but it sounds like you have some insecuries with your relationship if you think he may dump you based on a "little fat." A 3some only amplifies that insecurity. 3some are only for situations where the relationship is very very strong with lots of good open communication or purely sex based relationships.