Thread: Lights on, lights off

I get uncomfortable when my man wants to watch that. I don't know why...

I am the same way, for me I can feel my anxiety bubbling the whole time. But I know my bf likes to watch so I have had to convince myself to ignore the building anxiety. I am the polar opposite of an attention seeker, I hate when eyes are on me I hate acting or putting on a "show"...just gets me way too nervous. I do think I will look stupid but my nervousness is more so due to the fact that any sort of eyes on me just freaks me out (and there is no amount of compliments that will change my opinion on the matter lol). However given time you can start to ignore those impulses to stop doing whatever it is you are doing, you can feel the nervous feeling building and you just have to say to yourself "just ignore it for a bit just ignore it" and ease yourself into things. Not easy but it does become easier with time. Just try it out in small steps, tell him he can quickly look so you can get used to that feeling of knowing he is watching you. Has to be in small steps though, do not just jump right into it saying "yeah omg hun watch the whole thing!!!!" or you may become too nervous to have it happen again lol. Eye contact though is something I always avoid, just something I cannot do even in casual conversation I am not an eye-locking person...the anxiety is incredibly high compared to my already loathing stance on being looked at/watched.