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  1. 11-17-2011 09:03 AM #1
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    Is it a preference for most women to have the lights off during sex? I always want the lights on so I can see what I am doing and enjoy my wife's beauty. She wants the lights off because she is self conscious about her body (she says). I often wonder if she just likes to make believe I am Brad Pitt or something . We usually compromise by leaving the bathroom light on. Other women I was with before getting married (15 yrs.) seemed to be more comfortable with the lights off also. So, what do you women say, lights on or lights off?
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    My husband loves it with the lights on, so he can see everything better, but I love it with the lights low, it just seems more romantic that way.
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    I like lights off as well due to being self-conscious. I used to be a lights off all the time no matter what type woman, no peak of light because I did not want to be 'examined'...the thought of having every inch under a magnifying glass so-to-speak freaked me right out. Then I just kinda said to myself there is no point to avoiding light because he (my bf) likes to see me do things and there is no way I can keep up the requirement of no lights due to varying times you want sex. Took me a long long while to venture into having sex at random times in the day. I am still very uncomfortable with the full bedroom lights on or in the living room in the middle of the day with curtains open (no one can see us) because that bright light still feels like a magnifying glass or sitting in a doctor's office...hate that intense scrutiny light lol. But I can have the lamp on no problem because I prefer that sort of dim light and my bf has said all he really needs is lamp type lighting since he can still see stuff. If I had my way though it would still be lights off more frequently...but I have to avoid that thinking lol.
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    With my ex it was always lights off, mostly because he would tease me of the fat that I had (While I was losing it...yeah major confidence bust while I was working my Ash off- lost 51 lbs thank you very much!). With my fiance, it doesn't matter either way, because he accepts me as I am and loves me. Obviously he doesn't want me to gain 50 lbs or anything, but he makes me feel comfortable and I can be myself around him. He tells me I am beautiful all the time and how much he loves me. WHy would I want to hide? Guys are very visual and if you don't think they notice things about your body with the lights off you're wrong. Remember...they are touching all of it so they get a visual anyway. Lights dimmed always make a woman look amazing, so you can have the best of both worlds!
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    I enjoy lights off just because I feel it allows us to be more uninhibited. Especially if you're someone with an element of shyness. I don't want pitch black dark, but don't want full lighting either. It's not a requirement just a preference.

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    Lights on. I love to see everything. Its way better. I get sleepy with lights off
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    Depends. Lights off mean your other senses are hightened and you have to feel your way around.
    Lights on means you can see your partner's expression and what they are doing.
    Both are great.
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    Agreeing with sp346 here - there is a good facet of lights off! With visuals cut off, you can really get into the sense of touch.

    Lights for me are a matter of convenience rather than a conscious choice lately. If the baby has just gone down, I won't take a chance by turning the lights on. If the lights are on, I'm not going to waste any time turning them off, what for?
    Though I do sometimes turn on the bedside lamp in the middle - just for a change of pace
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    It really depends on my mood. If I am feeling sexy, I want the lights on, not bright theatre lighting though lol. For oral sex, I like lights all the way on, I like my guy to be able to enjoy the show For sex thats all about me, I really do enjoy the lights off so that I can just feel all the pleasure and sensations with none of the random bouts of self-conciousness over what I may look like in a certain position etc...
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    Lights on if I'm wearning lingerie
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