Advice Desired After Diagnoses Confusion

**Tannarie** · 11-23-2011 02:55 AM

First off, I'd like to say I am new to the site so show some mercy if I make a misstep.

My issue:
I have a long suffering problem of constant arousal and desire-filled thoughts brought on by the unintentional and undesired physical arousal which inhibits my daily functioning. Due to the previous symptoms it has caused frequent attempts to fix the problem by quelling my desire through sexual actions, both by myself alone and with my partner, even though the arousal is randomly occurring and not completely of a sexual nature.

I am a 20 year old female, soon to be 21. I have had this issue for approximately 10 years and had not sought help for it until recently since it is a rather embarrassing subject for me and when I was younger I didn't know whether it was right or wrong to have this happen.

I have done as much research as I can on similar issues but am not sure which is right. I have seen two doctors; one referred me to a psychologist for sex addiction and the other diagnosed me with PGAD/PSAS but I am holding off on starting any medication until I can get more information on PGAD/PSAS. I did however consent to therapy in the off-chance it would help, but stopped after 2 months when no relief was found.

The only method I know works even if it is not ideal, is self-stimulation 4 or more times a day (sometimes I must even resign to taking care of this in the bathroom just to gain some ability to think clearly and focus on something other than my arousal), and sexual relations with my boyfriend at least once a day, most often twice a day and sometimes up to eight times a day.

The main reason I am asking for advice is I am at my wit's end! I can't focus on work or school because of this and no matter how much I stimulate myself or have sex the issues comes back within 15 minutes to 7 hours. My boyfriend is worn out from over-usage and has sworn off sex for 3 weeks. I am afraid I may explode during this time. I have become so depressed over this problem because how damaging it is to my life; my work is sub-par, my school work is a mess due to my inability to focus on the subject matter over my issue, and my relationship with my boyfriend of 8 months is going downhill because he is starting to feel inadequate and I am beyond frustrated by my constant need for release.

Help!!!

**ItsASecret** · 11-23-2011 06:44 AM

The thing with this type of diagnosis is you cannot just 'will' it away, it is not a condition that others (especially men) should think "wow she is aroused all the time that is hot and wicked!". No, it interferes with work and life. As soon as something interferes with daily life like that it is not longer something that another should desire to be. It takes consultation with doctors, be that the therapists or medical ones. Talking about it can help in open forums like this but it will not "cure" you. It is a long road of usually medication to help calm the anxiety, depression, and tension feelings that this condition brings on. Some psychologists will work on a cognitive behavior therapy type measure which simply means they will try to teach you how to ignore the feelings but that takes a long time and sometimes is not successful depending on how hard the patient works on it.

**sp346** · 11-23-2011 08:08 AM

Sexual dysfunction is usually defined as sexual issues that hampers your daily life. I am not a physician, but based on your description, it appears you have a sexual dysfunction. PGAD sounds like the most likely cause, but its difficult to diagnos sexual issues because so many things impact your sexuality. Do your research but be careful about stuff you read from the web. Trust only information from a legitimate society or medical group. Find a sexual health clinic near you. Don't rely on the the average doctor. Sexual health is not taught in medical school so they really don't know much.

Seeing a psychologists can help too but it will be a long process, maybe life long. Don't expect it to work in 2 months. Also, you may have to shop around for a psychologists that works for you. Its trial and error. Don't ever see somebody who makes you feel bad and labels you as having a deviant behaviour. Part of sex is in the head. Also you may need to see a psychologist to learn to deal with this as it may be something that will never be cured. I highly recommend seeing a sex therapist. They are psychologists who specialize in sexual issues. Visit the AASECT website to find a liscenced sex therapist in your area.

I work with some great doctors in this field. Where do you live? Send me a private message and I will send you the name of some doctors. If you are not at any of the major cities, you may have to move/commute there to see a doctor in that area. This can be a live long issue that you need to learn to manage so you really need to commit yourself to finding help. Remember though, help will not be a quick solution and most likely will not be solved with a single pill alone.

**oxy-moron** · 11-28-2011 11:45 PM

Search on adaptagen herbs. These will help to normalise hormone levels. Examples are are Ginseng, Maca and saw palmetto.
You will need to experiment and try each separately to see if it makes any difference.