what options are there?

**happywifeisahappyhome** · 11-24-2011 03:38 AM

so me and the fiance are fairly experimental when it comes to stuff that could add a little spice to the after work relaxing shower session or intimate hour or so in the bedroom but lately since i was recently circumcised we've been looking for condoms, the only problem is all the ones she picks out break about 90% of the time... The only condoms i can get away with are magnums and i try to use these ones she picks out but neither of us are comfortable knowing that they'll break.

Here's the main question, with the 3 types of magnums available at the local lovers package (ecstasy, fire and ice, and regular) the options are more than limited, have any of you women found the condoms that have the dimples, ribs, or other fancy things goin on in a magnum size for your mans larger penis :-/ its somewhat depressing actually feeling like i wont ever be able to let her try the ones she wants

**LanaBear** · 11-24-2011 06:33 PM

Originally Posted by Claws

Dont use condoms, you cant feel anything, your meant to be having sex with your fiance, not a latex bag.
Get her on the pill. Sorted.

Are you seriously kidding me with this?

Some women, FYI, are physically unable to take the pill. Not to mention, the pill can screw up a womans body AND sex drive, so others may not want to put that into their body. God forbid a man actually be responsible for birth control!

**SoCoKen** · 11-24-2011 08:27 PM

Originally Posted by LanaBear

Are you seriously kidding me with this?

Some women, FYI, are physically unable to take the pill. Not to mention, the pill can screw up a womans body AND sex drive, so others may not want to put that into their body. God forbid a man actually be responsible for birth control!

1. Condoms remove most, if not all, of the pleasure from sex for a lot of guys
2. The male pill would sell like crazy if ever released, and I would love nothing more than to be able to be trust myself to take a pill everyday, without worry.

To the OP-

The magnum ecstasy have a ton of head room and allow for some sensation. Regular magnums suck, and really arent that much bigger than regular trojans. If you are still experiencing breakage, it might be worth trying magnum xls. They arent as big as you would think.

**Little** · 11-24-2011 08:32 PM

We're meant to be constantly making babies and ensuring our genetic material continues on to the next generation in as many forms possible. But thank God for sex with plastic bags.

OP, trying to have sex with condoms that don't fit aren't going to lend any positive attributes to your sex life ... unless you think stress is positive. No amount of dimples or ribs can make up for the nagging feeling that this condom is going to break. Maybe you could try out penis rings or toys like that instead? Bonus points: just wash and reuse.

**strong** · 11-24-2011 08:43 PM

<-- been doing coitus-interuptus for almost 6 months now

**Little** · 11-24-2011 08:58 PM

Coitus interruptus is not much better than using breakable condoms. It's much more fallible than most people would like. I can't knock it too hard, as I'm using it myself currently ... but it's no big deal if I get pregnant (I'm just killing time before I start TTCing again.)

If you really want to avoid hormonal BC AND condoms as much as possible, you should look into natural family planning, which includes charting basal body temperatures to predict ovulation and avoid having unprotected sex on fertile days.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-25-2011 01:21 AM

Originally Posted by Claws

No, im not kidding, you try being a male with a condom on, there is no friction, you cant feel anything, thus whats the point of having sex?
As for taking the pill and screwing up the sex drive, granted, thats a bad side effect, but at least she can still feel somthing. Not to mention rubbers dry women out so bad.
Why you think majority of guys (and surprisingly quite a few women) dont like condoms? They want to feel good.

Claws... I appreciate how Condoms feel or don't feel mainly to the man, I mean lube, or cumming within a reasonable time will not cause "rubber dry" to a woman...I think it is more "guy" oriented that hates Condoms, nature of the beast.

In a loving relationship it's SOOOOO Different people put up with what ever...

If you feel that way I am betting you like to score alot....

Just an opinion

**Hopeless Dork** · 11-25-2011 10:18 AM

To be honest, me and my guy have tried the fancy condoms ribbed, etc... to me I notice NOOOO difference. All I feel is the pressure from his penis... the ribbing and all the bells and whistles are lost on me.. I don't think its worth fretting over if you cant find them in your size.

**Hopeless Dork** · 11-25-2011 10:21 AM

Originally Posted by Claws

No, im not kidding, you try being a male with a condom on, there is no friction, you cant feel anything, thus whats the point of having sex?
As for taking the pill and screwing up the sex drive, granted, thats a bad side effect, but at least she can still feel somthing. Not to mention rubbers dry women out so bad.
Why you think majority of guys (and surprisingly quite a few women) dont like condoms? They want to feel good.

Guys that don't like condoms have these options:

Get in a serious committed relationship with a woman that does not want to have kids, is std free and on stable birth control.

Have fre and easy condom free sex with any woman that says shes on the pill and doesn't mind sleeping with any strange man without a condom (red flag, don't ya think)

If you ask the average sex driven guy if they would rather have no sex or sex with a condom, I'm betting they pick the former. In this day and age if you want to have skin to skin sex... you either need to take the monogomy route or just take your chances.

**ItsASecret** · 11-25-2011 11:32 AM

My bf has used the fancy condoms....total waste of money. The ribbed ones just feel weird and you end up paying more attention to that weird feeling thinking "jeez that is an odd feeling" rather than the feeling sex should be like. The bumply ones feel like you are being pricked by stubble...not enjoyable. And then we have used ones with a sort of extra "tip" meant to bump into more stuff...useless, there is no feeling from that.

Condoms are not the most enjoyable thing but if a woman is against seeing a doctor for prescribed medication, she does want to use another form of birth control, she does not have regular enough periods to 'chart', and you do not want to have a baby then condoms are all you got. Pulling out also a very unreliable form of birth control as well, the old adage of "well it hasn't happened to me yet so it works" does not work, it is a fine line using that method.