Thread: Can't get off during sex..any advice?

Originally Posted by Deelicious24

I feel very insecure on top..My guy always seem to last longer when i'm on top then when he does the work..i take it as it may not feel as good for him? Or is it normal for a guy to last longer when the girl is on top?

My experience has been that guys last longer when a woman is on top. Maybe its because they are not exerting so much energy pounding into you. Doesn't mean they don't like it. From what I have been told, this is one of men's favorite positions. Of course, this is generalizations. Each person is different. Lasting longer is a good thing, don't take that as he is not enjoying as much.

Regarding body image, being naked when your man is turned on is the best time, because he will be so sexually charged up, the last thing he will be noticing is any of the imperfections that you see in yourself. His mind will be in the clouds. So don't get self concious about it. Realize that at that moment, he will be seeing you as the sexiest woman on earth. Self confifence is very sexy. We don't give men enough credit and assume that all they see is the physical shape of our bodies. Remember, men as just as complex as women and find things like self confidence very attractive and sexy. Most men that I know what loved the idea of their woman on top because it gives them a good view and they love seeing the confidence in a woman when she takes control.

I really love riding on top and get off almost every time. Besides lots of clitoral stimulation your guy has access to your boobs/nipples for extra manual or oral stimulation. Makes me wet just thinking about it.

Originally Posted by sp346

My experience has been that guys last longer when a woman is on top. Maybe its because they are not exerting so much energy pounding into you. Doesn't mean they don't like it. From what I have been told, this is one of men's favorite positions. Of course, this is generalizations. Each person is different. Lasting longer is a good thing, don't take that as he is not enjoying as much.

Regarding body image, being naked when your man is turned on is the best time, because he will be so sexually charged up, the last thing he will be noticing is any of the imperfections that you see in yourself. His mind will be in the clouds. So don't get self concious about it. Realize that at that moment, he will be seeing you as the sexiest woman on earth. Self confifence is very sexy. We don't give men enough credit and assume that all they see is the physical shape of our bodies. Remember, men as just as complex as women and find things like self confidence very attractive and sexy. Most men that I know what loved the idea of their woman on top because it gives them a good view and they love seeing the confidence in a woman when she takes control.

Thanks for the advice..Def made me feel a lot better!

Originally Posted by skirt99

I really love riding on top and get off almost every time. Besides lots of clitoral stimulation your guy has access to your boobs/nipples for extra manual or oral stimulation. Makes me wet just thinking about it.

I love when my boyfriend plays with my boobs and nipples big turn on for me yummmm

Originally Posted by Deelicious24

And another reason is I'm not very comfortable with my body

Well, that's a hard one. I think part of my wife's issue is that. It's easier said than done, but let me tell you something...if he is having sex with you, HE THINKS YOU'RE HOT. TRUST me on this!!

It feels just as good, even better, with woman on top. We last longer, at least for me, because we don't have to use the same set of muscles, and there are some groin area muscles that we tense up when we orgasm. Since those muscles are more relaxed when the woman is on top, we last longer. It feels just as good, even better some times, but we last longer too. Win-win.

Originally Posted by Deelicious24

Thanks for the advice..Def made me feel a lot better!

Here's the thing. The parts of women's bodies that they hate are often what we like.

My wife is overweight as am I, both of us have always been since we've been together. Although for health reasons we are trying to lose weight and both of us have lost some weight, she has a big butt that she hates...but I LOVE LOVE LOVE it, it's so sexy. Sir Mix A Lot was right.

Originally Posted by Joe77

she has a big butt that she hates...but I LOVE LOVE LOVE it, it's so sexy. Sir Mix A Lot was right.

I like big butts and I can not lie. I also like my woman on top. Lasting longer =/= less pleasure. It generally means more as the build-up is slower and you have time to enjoy it longer.