Thread: Why...

Originally Posted by Nholland

Like the first poster said Viagra only provides an erection, not arousal. And I'd rather suck then eat any day. And men do feel pain. And even if we lack sex drive at least we can still perform and don't have to feel like failures. I thunk that's a very insensitive post.

I didn't mean for it to be insensitive and I definitely wasn't cutting down men at all. I am actually very jealous of their sex drive and there is a solution for at least an erection. Think of it like this, it would be very frustrating for a man to feel aroused but not being able to 'get it up' to have sex. Very very frustrating. It's the same for women, who WANT to want sex, but can't get up the desire. Some women are very blessed with a healthy sex drive and able to get pleasure (and yes, we've tried every single position, mood setting music, foreplay, relaxing, lubricant, vibrators, EVERYTHING. My doctor says I just need to 'relax' more and medical articles give all the same advice - that it's just all mental). Sorry if it came across as insensitive or angry at men, I definitely wasn't. Like I said, I'm jealous of them LOL!

I've had orgasms (mostly by myself and a few from my fiance), so I know what I'm missing during sex. I'm really just venting - I know no one can really tell me anything I haven't read or heard already. :-(