Thread: Why...

Oh, this is a topic I am very familiar with since I work in the pharmaceutical industry. Recently, a female sexual drug was coming out, but the FDA wouldn't approve it because they said increasing sexual desire by one time a month wasn't enough. Its all BS. This is not the first female sexual drug that got declined. Even Vigara was looked into for women. It does work, but Pfizer didn't want to pursue it because they thought it wasn't worth the effort. We live in a society that doesn't value female sexual health in the same light as male sexual health. If you bring you a sexual issue with your doctor, they just ignore you or tell you its just in your head. It really isn't fair. That why we women need to speak up more about this issue and show that it is important.

Originally Posted by sp346

Oh, this is a topic I am very familiar with since I work in the pharmaceutical industry. Recently, a female sexual drug was coming out, but the FDA wouldn't approve it because they said increasing sexual desire by one time a month wasn't enough. Its all BS. This is not the first female sexual drug that got declined. Even Vigara was looked into for women. It does work, but Pfizer didn't want to pursue it because they thought it wasn't worth the effort. We live in a society that doesn't value female sexual health in the same light as male sexual health. If you bring you a sexual issue with your doctor, they just ignore you or tell you its just in your head. It really isn't fair. That why we women need to speak up more about this issue and show that it is important.

That is how my doctors have been. They tell me I just must have a mental "block" and I just need to "relax" I've heard it all. I don't know what that block is though, I've always have healthy outlook sexually. It does seem like there is a lot of focus on men's sexual performance rather than women. I would totally love having an increased sexual desire one time a month. It's not mental for me... I was never sexually abused, I gave my virginity to someone I LOVE, I am confident about myself. I just don't get it.

Like the first poster said Viagra only provides an erection, not arousal. And I'd rather suck then eat any day. And men do feel pain. And even if we lack sex drive at least we can still perform and don't have to feel like failures. I thunk that's a very insensitive post.

Like the first poster said Viagra only provides an erection, not arousal. And I'd rather suck then eat any day. And men do feel pain in general, but during intercourse (how many times have you felt like your guts were getting ripped out during intercourse? Or did you cramp or bleed afterwards?) And even if we lack sex drive at least we can still perform and don't have to feel like failures. I thunk that's a very insensitive post.

I think you missed the point of her post. She never stated that men do not feel pain. She's frustrated that her lack of libido is being dismissed by medical professionals as "oh you just need to relax". It's very frustrating when we're told to listen to our bodies, but then when we do and our bodies are telling us something is wrong, it's disregarded by our doctor. It's the same concept that applies to birth control. How many male contraceptive devices or pills have been released to give men more responsibility and burden in that area? Women fight this battle every single day. I do not believe the poster is angry at men or trying to be insensitive, but venting her frustrations with the medical world.

I believe the whole idea of any of these pills is to get more blood flow to the area, so in reality they should work for either sex. The reason they are targeted at the men is that women can have intercourseat any state but men cannot. It reminds me of an old SNL skit, "Lothar of the hill people", in which michael myers as Lothar states that a woman can "walk" whenever she wants but when a man can't "walk" it is there for all to see

Good point MV. Lol, cracking up at the SNL reference too. While it's very true, it also just makes it worse for us ladies. Yes, because we have a vagina we are "able" to have sex at any time. But that doesn't mean we are able to do it without severe pain and discomfort depending on medical issues and/or loss of libido. If a man cannot get an erection, there is no intercourse. But when a woman cannot become sexually aroused or has internal medical issues going on that cannot by physically seen, they are often disregarded both by doctors, and unfortunately male partners.

Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster

I think you missed the point of her post. She never stated that men do not feel pain. She's frustrated that her lack of libido is being dismissed by medical professionals as "oh you just need to relax". It's very frustrating when we're told to listen to our bodies, but then when we do and our bodies are telling us something is wrong, it's disregarded by our doctor. It's the same concept that applies to birth control. How many male contraceptive devices or pills have been released to give men more responsibility and burden in that area? Women fight this battle every single day. I do not believe the poster is angry at men or trying to be insensitive, but venting her frustrations with the medical world.

Thank you BD! I am totally not angry at men at all! I know it's not their fault for my low sex drive. It is very frustrating, and it seems like women get told the same thing every time. To just "relax" or "you have a mental block" or "just be more confident about yourself" The medical world says it's just 'mental' but maybe there is a physical disorder. I know there is no "magic pill" to boost libido, but I know there isn't. My fiance is so patient with me. I'm insanely attracted to him, and he is to me. A lot of times, I just get him off because it does make me happy giving him pleasure and making him come. I just wish I had the same desire. I wish I wanted sex more! I wonder if there is an undiscovered medical disorder for this...

Originally Posted by maleview

I believe the whole idea of any of these pills is to get more blood flow to the area, so in reality they should work for either sex. The reason they are targeted at the men is that women can have intercourseat any state but men cannot. It reminds me of an old SNL skit, "Lothar of the hill people", in which michael myers as Lothar states that a woman can "walk" whenever she wants but when a man can't "walk" it is there for all to see

True, women can have intercourse at any state. We don't have to worry as much as men regarding 'performance' but that doesn't mean we WANT it (even if we want to want it)