Quote Originally Posted by caterpillar79 View Post
Be spontaneously sweet. Always touch your mate gently and lovingly even if it does not end up in sex all the time. Just build her up for a couple of days, and on day 3, she'll want you for sure.
Three DAYS???
What can I do to make her want me after 3 hours? LOL!

Seriously though:
Two things: 1) Communicate (as lizzardb notes above) and 2) PRACTICE, practice, practice!
You'll likely find that the hundredth time you and your lover are together is SOO much better than the first time, and it can keep getting better after that, if you communicate.