Did she have an orgasm or not?

**Lovcookie** · 12-08-2011 01:20 AM

Ok, I believe I can usually tell if a woman has a orgasm when having sex with her but this time I am not sure.

She was on top during sex and was moaning like crazy for the longest time then suddenly she stopped and leaned forward and rested on my chest. She was breathing deeply but irregular with no body moment. This part was like a reaction after a orgasm to me but normally I can feel a woman's vagina having small contractions around my penis after the orgasm. With this woman I could not feel any contractions at all. I asked her multiple times if she had cum but she would not answer with a straight yes or no. She just looks at me kind of embarrassed one time and smiling the next then hits me in a playful fun way. I kind of think she did have an orgasm but I must admit I am not 100% sure.

**lizzardb63** · 12-08-2011 06:28 AM

Well if you don't know, then we sure won't know. Maybe she doesn't answer with a straight yes or no because she's embarassed. Or she could be lying. It's hard to tell. How long have you been intimate with this woman?

**Raina** · 12-10-2011 01:19 AM

This is going to sound ridiculous BUT I watched on an episode of Manswers that when a woman 'gets off' her lower abdomen and her rear has a red-ish color to it. Could be wrong considering its a show to keep men entertained, Lol. I admit I convulse when I get off and sometimes I need outside stimulation for it or prefer both.

**Lovcookie** · 12-10-2011 02:06 PM

I was seeing another women recently but she wanted a open relationship. She went out of town and admitted she would sleep with another man. Two days later I was invited by this other woman for dinner and drinks at her house. I knew she liked me but was not expectling sex because she as a shy nature. Silly me because it did lead to sex. That was the first time we ever had sex and we ended up having sex all weekend. I just found it strange she would not tell me if she had an orgasm or not. I enjoy the complete and mutual satisfaction that sex can bring to a couple and when I get off and she does not I find that sex is incomplete and that I failed. She did not act like I failed though and was right into it all weekend.

**Beththebutterfly** · 12-10-2011 02:58 PM

If you are both enjoying eachother it doesn`t matter so much.

**lizzardb63** · 12-10-2011 03:07 PM

Agree with Beththebutterfly

**jns** · 12-11-2011 05:21 AM

Originally Posted by Lovcookie

Ok, I believe I can usually tell if a woman has a orgasm when having sex with her but this time I am not sure.

She was on top during sex and was moaning like crazy for the longest time then suddenly she stopped and leaned forward and rested on my chest. She was breathing deeply but irregular with no body moment. This part was like a reaction after a orgasm to me but normally I can feel a woman's vagina having small contractions around my penis after the orgasm. With this woman I could not feel any contractions at all. I asked her multiple times if she had cum but she would not answer with a straight yes or no. She just looks at me kind of embarrassed one time and smiling the next then hits me in a playful fun way. I kind of think she did have an orgasm but I must admit I am not 100% sure.

She could not know what an orgasm is and is not able to say one way or the other. You could give her an orgasm by oral (if she is willing) and have her compare that to the ones during intercourse. Maybe if not oral, then masturbation.

**Lovcookie** · 12-11-2011 09:14 AM

I did try oral and oral with touching in every way under the sun. She did like oral but seemed embarrassed by it somewhat. Her response seemed similiar with both but she was much more comfortable with my fingers and intercourse then oral. I held her hand and made her fingers play with herself and tried to learn from that too. She got pleasure from all methods but still I was not sure if she came. I guess I'll find out more about what makes her tick the next time. Maybe she needs more time with me to let herself completey go. I love it when a woman cums.

**Hopeless Dork** · 12-11-2011 11:45 AM

You asked her multiple times if she had an orgasm or not? No offense, but that would be a turn off to me and also quite awkward. If you ask, ask in a way like... did that feel good? If you think you didn't please her.. ask her to show you what she likes... but to keep on did you come? did you come? Tell me? Tell me! :P (I realize you probably werent all pushy, just insistant in your asking) it would become apparent that its an issue for you and so would make it hard to answer honestly.

I come 90 percent of the time when me and my bf are close and when I don't its nothing he did wrong... just me not be in the place to get there (tired, stressed, mind elsewhere etc)

As for women orgasming on a one night stand -- not as common as a man would hope. Typically women need to feel comfortable to let their hair down and go for it, to say/show what they need to feel to get there etc... and a shy woman especially, is probably not going to be able to do that on first contact so you shouldnt really aim for that... instead aim for making each other feel good, no pressure..

The more pressure you put by asking the more likely you will put her in a position of lying to you -- then no one wins.

**Texasred** · 12-15-2011 05:58 PM

Originally Posted by lizzardb63

Agree with Beththebutterfly

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Try not to focus so much on whether or not she had an orgasm; men are by nature task-oriented, goal-oriented, but love-making should not be treated as a task - it's an activity that is an end in itself, not a means to an end (usually...), and I say this as a man who has been at times quite a slow learner...

If she's unhappy with the way things go, you'll know, but otherwise, don't bug her!