Thread: Exploring BDSM

If you like the idea of it then that is a good step right off the bat. It is definitely not for everyone.

My boyfriend has tried some of the light domination stuff on me, I was reluctant but I know he kinda has an interest in it so I gave it a shot. He did the whole blindfold on me, tied me to a chair, vibrators on me during that, bending over the sofa with hands tied up behind my back, oral on my knees while hands tied, arms tied up on the headboard...just general things and at my request no degrading talk during it and I can say without a doubt it is not my thing. The lack of control and sensory deprivation is not arousing to me, but I did give it a shot and to me that was what mattered. He loved it but yeah I can say I will not be asking for it again. He wants me to try the stuff on him but I am so quiet, so reserved, so shy and timid that having control is the farthest thing on my mind as arousing so even if I gave it a shot on him I think it would not be what he is looking for.

There are a lot of online sources about beginners stuff. You of course do not need to jump right into it, you can explore light stuff maybe with blindfolds first and very light spanking...just to ease you into it. Anything you do not want to do though you should not have to do, and if it gets to be too much make sure he knows that no means no.