Excesive sex drive

**sweetyoungthing** · 12-26-2011 02:11 PM

I am a 46 year old woman who is ALWAYS horny.
I feel like there is something wrong with me!!! I wake up wet, am wet almost all day, wet on the drive home and go to bed wet...
BF of 20 years (he is 55 yrs old) is always tired or just not into me anymore. We have sex usually only 1 a month if I'm lucky.

I use a vibrator a lot ..What is wrong with me???

**rosekitten** · 12-26-2011 02:14 PM

Nothing. There's no set standard of what a "normal" sex drive is, because it's something that varies a lot. I hope I still have a very active sex drive when I'm in my 40's!

**jns** · 12-26-2011 05:25 PM

Nothing is wrong with you. Your bf's libido sounds low. Has he checked out why he only wants sex once a month. As usual, the person with the lowest sex drive controls how often sex occurs. Has there been discussions about you wanting more sex? If so, what was the outcome?

**sweetyoungthing** · 12-26-2011 07:04 PM

Originally Posted by jns

Nothing is wrong with you. Your bf's libido sounds low. Has he checked out why he only wants sex once a month. As usual, the person with the lowest sex drive controls how often sex occurs. Has there been discussions about you wanting more sex? If so, what was the outcome?

Yes I talk about it all the time!! He just says his work is more physically demanding and I get ups earlier and blah blah blah. I can understand to some extent but there is ALWAYS some excuse. I even joked about trading him for a younger model or getting a "Friend with Benefits" and he just blows it off. I do love him but.......I do need sex!!

**suntan** · 12-27-2011 12:04 AM

Originally Posted by sweetyoungthing

Yes I talk about it all the time!! He just says his work is more physically demanding and I get ups earlier and blah blah blah. I can understand to some extent but there is ALWAYS some excuse. I even joked about trading him for a younger model or getting a "Friend with Benefits" and he just blows it off. I do love him but.......I do need sex!!

This is painful and you want it excessively and maybe you go hormonal at times when he is not in for sex and I think, I am not a consultant and not even an experienced person, both of you must go holidaying somewhere ,to some distant exotic destination and have fun, romance and sex and he may turn up positive in good time.