Husbands Fantasy

**angiewatson17** · 12-28-2011 11:52 PM

A new single black work colleague, considerably younger than me has shown a great deal of interest in myself since his arrival some three months ago. Whilst I swear I have never encouraged him we do get on well same personallity, interests ect. and he he always compliments me nicely on my dress and is really polite.

Recently hes been asking me out and I found myself being tempted so I decided to put an end to temptation by telling my husband of the situation. Instead of the reaction I was expecting he implied that as he knew about it, it would be Ok. I was shocked and thought it would just die a natural death. My husband wouldnt let the subject drop however and would bring it up on the rare occasions we made love and it started to dominate the love making routine then not mentioned afterwards.

I decided to have it out with him and asked him after we made love why he kept on about it during intamcy. His answer nearly gave me a heart attack.

He said it had been his ultimate fantasy since before we were married (23yrs ago) for me to take a black lover, deny him sex and be dominant with him. He said he knew he didn't satisfy sexually anymore and that my libido was much higher than his. (both true) He said that this scenario was a wide spread thing on the internet and would thrive on the humilliation and treat me as a goddess if I went through with it. He said he would love to take me shopping to buy my lingerie and a new outfit and help me dress for my potential date.

His sexuall prowess has never been great and I have to admit I am tempted if only for sexual release but I wonder what my husband would get from it as I'm not naturally a dominant personality

Has anyone else ever been through anything similar?
if so what is your situation now regarding your relationship with your husband?

**jns** · 12-29-2011 12:02 AM

I think that when you indulge in fantasy near home or with someone at work, the likelihood of a bad outcome causing collateral damage is great. If you want to indulge in such a thing, do it far from home and keep it contained.

**Aprilily** · 12-29-2011 05:35 PM

Fantasies are great because they are just that, a fantasy. I agree with jns, doing this with someone you work with could spell disaster-if you feel this is something you want to do, keep it out of your backyard.

**BabyGirl** · 12-29-2011 08:01 PM

You are Thinking about it , So is Hubby.

Though a question here, Is it your Hubby's Fantasy that you have Sex with a Black Man ?

If so, why must the man be black ?

Can the man be Black from the USA or Nigeria or Africa or many other " Black " countries ?
Must you have sex with the Black man or could your hubby maybe get you a Black Dildo and strap it on and satisfy you both ?

**rcoreyus** · 12-29-2011 09:39 PM

Its not a very uncommon fantasy - but I think for most people it really is best left as a fantasy.

It would be much safer to try being dominant with your husband. This doesn't involve all the possible problems with involving a 3rd person.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-30-2011 02:13 AM

It is possible that he is "hoping" that you will go through with the shopping but for him... He feels worthless and doesn't want to lose you and is happy to do what ever to keep his marriage...

I think, he thinks blacks are bigger and he is insecure also about his size.

Keep the fantasy in the backburner and tell him you love him, show him... You don't know what he is capable of when feeling like he is about to lose you...

**angiewatson17** · 12-30-2011 06:59 AM

Many thanks for the replies. I'd like to give you an update if I may and would like your further opnions.

My husband became a little more than obsessed with the scenario with me and my potential suitor. I admit that I was more than flattered with my colleagues attention as he complimented me on my dress and found myself dressing each day to please him and draw his attention. We did "do lunch" ect. but nothing more despite my husbands constant insistance that we should date "properly". I asked him (my husband) what he could gain or want from the situation should my potential suitor and I become involved in a sexual relationship, his answer is to embarrasing to type. Surfice to say that he has bought me expensive lingerie and perfume this Christmas saying that he would want me to wear this for my dates with my colleague and that he would do anything for me if I'd agree to dating my colleague.

I really am on the edge of going through what my husband wishes just to please him, my "friend" has asked me out on New Years Eve. When my husband learnt of this he insisted it was an ideal opportunity to "see" how i felt with my potential lover adding that he would stay in and wait for me.

Advice?

**amandaspride** · 12-30-2011 07:18 AM

Several issues going on here I feel. Some not too dissimiilar to a situation I found myself in a short while ago.

The first issue that jumps out at me is your husbands. I suspect he's spent far to much time on the internet recently surfing cuckhold websites and has become obsessed with the fantasy which if he wants you to have pleasure and can not provide it is fine but if it's to serve his own perverse desires is not so. In your first statement of your first post you quote "A new single black work colleague" is the black part significant to you or your husband? It shouldn't be. You also quote in your second post "I asked him (my husband) what he could gain or want from the situation should my potential suitor and I become involved in a sexual relationship, his answer is to embarrasing to type" I feel you should enlighten us a little as what he wants from this is as its obviously significant.

I also feel your not currently happy in your relationship sexually and part of you wants this to happen, it is flattering when you recieve attention from an attractive guy taking it to next level though is a major step. Plus like others have said you are never going to be sure of everyones reactions until afterwards when it may be too late. How about making him think it's going to happen? Get ready, let him help you get ready, tell him you weant the house cleaning from top to bottom, laundry doing and ironing while your at it! (I feel this is what he might want to hear you say) Go out even stay out for the night but dont meet your suitor, go out with the girls. Then come home and see where you are, see how you both feel. But do tell him it didn't happen shortly after your return lol. You need to decide what YOU want with his issues put to one side. If it's a sex life your not currently getting I don't blame you. Keep us informed and try and let us know what was "too embarrasing to type" as I feel the answer to many of my questions lie there.

Good Luck!

**LilahX** · 01-08-2012 03:36 AM

You're a lucky woman to have a husband who will be so honest with you. How he has come to this fantasy is irrelevant. That he is sharing it with you shows great trust in your relationship. There are indeed men (mine included) who love their partner dearly but arealso hugely aroused by their woman being with another guy. This is the thing that turns my guy on the most - either with him being man present or not. It turns him on to talk about it head of time, to msg me while I might be at a liaisoin and to talk about it in detail once I get home.

This in no way diminishes his love for me, or mine for him. It's about sex, not love. There are many many fantasies and fetishes out there that can be a successful part of a relationship. Those couples whose relationships can take the honesty can go on to become even closer. To some it may seem strange, but not if you consider the number of men and women who go on to explore their desires outside of their relationship.

Sure, things can go wrong, but from my experience that is usually when the relationshp wasn't solid to start with.