Thread: Too wet (and lots of other issues)

So, recently me and my long distance boyfriend took things to the next level face to face, and i discovered he's somewhat below-average size wise, which made me worry a bit - I want it to feel good for him.

I've had the issue before of being 'too wet' - and I know it's effected guys in the past as I've recieved the comment that "it's like ****ing a logflume" and I believe have had problems where guys have had issues orgasming especially whilst wearing a condom, which meant huge worries for me especially since my partner is very condom orientated.
I don't believe I'm particularly big down there (atleast I hope not) but I'm sure I'm not the smallest either as my first partner was pretty big so I do worry it's been stretched.

With these worries in mind there was no foreplay (from his side anyway) which meant that often we started dry - this meant after a few days I was very, very sore. However withing a minute or two I was always pretty wet every time.
Things seemed to go alright, there was once or twice the condom got rolled up/annoying, and once when he lost the hardness during sex (eep..!), and a few times when when I worried it didnt feel too good for him... After a while we ditched the condoms which did seem to improve things but not massively.

Also although I do get very turned on, I have never orgasmed, and I'm pretty bad at masturbation.

Is there anything anyone can recommend?
For feeling tighter? Ways to not get so wet? I don't want him to see me 'dry it off' during sex as that would be a huge mood killer.
Also how the do you make masturbation feel good, I'm tired of having to fake to him from so far away - (imagination does do a lot but that's all it really is, also pillow humping too but I'm too shy to do such things while talking to him.)

I know theres a lot here, but if anyone could help with anything it would be appreciated

The ladies here will give you excellent advice on vaginal issues. But can I just say that some men would love you being wet. To a lot of men it's a huge turn on. What can be a turn-off sometimes is a very dry vagina where you feel that the lady is not keen, or ready for sex. Why not keep a small towel nearby to dry yourself during sex as well. x

Sex is messy business so don't be embasses using a towel in between. The messiness if what makes it so much fun.

Your first partner did not stretch you. Your body adjusts to different sizes. Just images, if we women never got back after giving birth to babies, we would never be able to have sex with a penis again. But there are ways to tighten yourselve. Doing Keigal muscles contractions are really good sexaully and for your health. You just squeeze your muscles like you are trying to stop peeing. Doing these 10 times each session and do them everytime you stop at a traffic light.

Try having your partner get you off first, either by hand or orally. Once you cum, pat yourself dry and then maybe you won't be as wet afterwards. Also, it will help you orgasm since many women can't orgasm from intercourse alone.

Don't fake your orgasm because your partner will think that whatever he is doing is working great. Be honest. There is nothing wrong with not having an orgasm as long as you are enjoying what you are doing.

Originally Posted by Thomas Hepburn

But can I just say that some men would love you being wet. To a lot of men it's a huge turn on. x

I happen to be one of those men that find it a very big turn on. I find it a huge ego boost (even if it's just in my head) to be able to get my partner that aroused. When I am with my SO, I like it wet and messy. When I first started dating my SO, she was extremely self conscious about this. Once I explained how great it was to me, she lost all reservations and never had another worry about it. So don't get yourself down because of it. You don't have any issues nor do you have anything to worry about. What it comes down to what you are comfortable with. Talk with your boyfriend and see what his take on it is.

Never fake your orgasms! Ever! There are plenty of posts offering extremely helpful information on what you need to do to bring yourself to orgasm. When I first became sexually active with my SO, I made it very clear that I didn't want her to fake anything. It was my desire/need to make her orgasm and that she would (for lack of better wording) have to train me on what I needed to do in order to make her orgasm. Lots of communication (not mention lots of practise!!) made it very easy to learn how to pleasure her and make her orgasm.

As for tightness, there are also many posts offering tips on helping you with exercises to become as tight as you desire.

Can you expand on the "I'm pretty bad at masturbation" statement? Is this because you don't want to masturbate? Is it because you are unable to orgasm when you masturbate? I'm not sure I understand how you can be bad a self pleasuring.

Originally Posted by Snerg

Can you expand on the "I'm pretty bad at masturbation" statement? Is this because you don't want to masturbate? Is it because you are unable to orgasm when you masturbate? I'm not sure I understand how you can be bad a self pleasuring.

Not because I don't want to, I'm happy to and comfortable with it,
but I can't really make it feel good when I do it...
It's just not pleasurable, no matter how turned on I am when I do it,
the only way I can feel good is through pillowhumping but that doesn't get things very far,
but rubbing my clit with my finger isn't so good, fingering myself doesnt bring much joy either
I've never reached orgasm as far as I know, by myself or with anyone

Originally Posted by Quilla

So, recently me and my long distance boyfriend took things to the next level face to face, and i discovered he's somewhat below-average size wise, which made me worry a bit - I want it to feel good for him.

I've had the issue before of being 'too wet' - and I know it's effected guys in the past as I've recieved the comment that "it's like ****ing a logflume" and I believe have had problems where guys have had issues orgasming especially whilst wearing a condom, which meant huge worries for me especially since my partner is very condom orientated.
I don't believe I'm particularly big down there (atleast I hope not) but I'm sure I'm not the smallest either as my first partner was pretty big so I do worry it's been stretched.

With these worries in mind there was no foreplay (from his side anyway) which meant that often we started dry - this meant after a few days I was very, very sore. However withing a minute or two I was always pretty wet every time.
Things seemed to go alright, there was once or twice the condom got rolled up/annoying, and once when he lost the hardness during sex (eep..!), and a few times when when I worried it didnt feel too good for him... After a while we ditched the condoms which did seem to improve things but not massively.

Also although I do get very turned on, I have never orgasmed, and I'm pretty bad at masturbation.

Is there anything anyone can recommend?
For feeling tighter? Ways to not get so wet? I don't want him to see me 'dry it off' during sex as that would be a huge mood killer.
Also how the do you make masturbation feel good, I'm tired of having to fake to him from so far away - (imagination does do a lot but that's all it really is, also pillow humping too but I'm too shy to do such things while talking to him.)

I know theres a lot here, but if anyone could help with anything it would be appreciated

I always thought that would be a good thing I would never raw **** you I probably would cum too fast