Thread: trying to get wife pregnant but wife is grossed out about seamen....

I really want kids. my wife is so so about it. been married for 3 years and im not getting any younger. the problem is my wife is so grossed out about semen inside her. that every time we have sex she goes right to the bathroom to make sure everything is out. it really makes me feel bad knowing im her husband and every time i cum it totally sickeness her and she hates it. At this point i dont know what to do. its not like im some radom guy. im the person she married.. and everything i try doesnt make a difference. Sometimes she doesnt even let me finish. Any more its feel like i could care less about it and not want to have any children with her and just move on with my life its just makes me feel like im the grossest person when it comes to her.. and i dont want to be around it let alone have sex with her.

OK, you want kids, she isn't sure. You really really need to wait until she is sure, or find someone who is. It is not fair to pressure someone into having kids, or bring children into a family where they aren't wanted by one of the parents.

I wish couples would discuss children before they got married - it is something where there just isn't really any compromise possible. You can't agree to have kids "a little".

I don't understand the mad rush for kids when you know your partner doesn't feel the same. This goes for both men and for women. I dunno...I've always just thought of having kids as a "wow, I love this person so much I want to raise children with them" with the feelings reciprocated, not a "Yikes, I'm getting old...better procreate!". It's totally fine to want to have children, but when the person who must carry and grow that child for 9 months BEFORE dedicating the rest of their life to mothering that child, doesn't want to......you certainly can't force it.

You need to have a heart to heart with her. If having children is truly something you know you definitely want, you need to know where she stands on it. If she doesn't feel the same way, and NOT having kids is going to cause you to resent her forever........you need to think about that as well.

I think she needs some counselling about sex issues perhaps? Why should she have a morbid fear of semen?? Ask her how she would feel if you found her vagina disgusting. I must admit that I couldn't have sex with a woman that found any part of me disgusting. And, I'm sure that no woman would have sex with any guy if he demonstrated disgust during the sexual act with them! Maybe she is just frightened to death of getting pregnant??