husband does not like to give oral sex
My husband (of 16 years) does not like to give me oral sex. He claims that it is because I do not enjoy it. He only uses the very tiny tip of his tongue on the very front of my clit. He will not lick, or kiss anything else. He always says that he is so glad that we are open about everything, and wants me to tell him what I would like to try. But, after years of us doing what he wanted to try, I finally told him that I would like him to use more tongue on my whole vaginal area inside and out. I even told him (honestly) that I wanted improve on my BJ's was interested in learning more ways to please him. He told me that he had never heard of a man actually licking and tasting a woman's vagina with his whole tongue. He said that it was different than me giving him a BJ ,since it a vagina has fluid and was a "hole." I was really shocked. He told me to buy a book to prove that other men actually do that and he would have to think about it. When I brought it up a few days later he said, "well, fine, let's just stop having sex, then!" We normally have it 4 times a week because he likes the regularity. The thing is, I am reasonably happy with our sex. But, I have always been flexble to fit HIS desire for frequency, times of day, etc. I am healthy, fit, and have no offensive odors or vaginal issues. So, now I am really feeling resentful and hurt. I know he would try it if I made him, but that would make me feel even worse. Any advice?