Fantasies and your partner

**sp346** · 02-14-2012 01:55 PM

How much of your fantasies do you share with your partners?

I'm not a verbally very expressive person, so I often lightly hint at some of the realistic/doable fantasies with my spouse. The more crazy, wild and unrealistic fantasies I keep to myself. By having that privacy, gives my mind more freedom to roam and be creative

We tried talkinga about our fantasies once and we both felt awkard.

**Claret** · 02-14-2012 02:04 PM

But, perhaps that is the best thing about a fantasy. It's just that. I think when the fantasy becomes reality, it very often doesn't measure up. I fully believe things are often better off as a dream.

**cathygirl** · 02-14-2012 03:56 PM

I share the ones he enjoys hearing about. The ones I don't think would turn him on, well, those I keep to myself.

**ItsASecret** · 02-14-2012 04:31 PM

If I had fantasies I would probably tell my bf but I honestly have none.

**barrera** · 04-06-2012 03:45 AM

im pretty forward when it comes to fantasies.. thankfully i dont consider most of them to be to extreme

im also thankful to have a girlfriend that is willing to explore just about anything with me

**sexmonsterrawr** · 04-07-2012 12:05 PM

My fiance and I share everything. It's what keeps is interested in each other in bed. we both know what eaxh other likes so we can keep each other satisfied. I didn't do this is previous relationships and the sex wasn't as good. We have good chemistry and are very open. I find it helps a lot! Especially being a female, we don't always get things we want. Expressing what we like is very important.

**Nholland** · 04-08-2012 08:10 AM

I feel you should o ly share fantasies that ur part er can act out like dressing up and role playing. Sharing fantasies of ur partner having a huge *** or being taller will just make them insecure

**jns** · 04-08-2012 09:42 AM

Fantasies about doing it this way or that way are good to share if they don't make the partner truly uncomfortable. Fantasies of comparison can make the other feel inadequate.

**Hopeless Dork** · 04-08-2012 01:19 PM

I think if a fantasy involves only yourself or yourself and your partner... sharing it could be a huge turn on whether or not you explore it together actually or just talk about it. Sharing a fantasy about someone else... may or may not yeild same results

A voyeristic partner might enjoy hearing fantasies of people other than themselves while as by and large most partners would feel hurt and insulted to hear fantasies focused on someone else or something they are incapable of delivering on.

If my bf shared a fantasy situation where I was a factor, it would turn me on and inspire to try to come as close to making it happen as possible. If my bf shared a fantasy about another woman, not only would it turn me off completly but I don't know if I'd be able to turn back on again...with him.. everrrr lol

Slippery slope!

**amaranthine** · 04-09-2012 12:50 PM

I think sharing those kind of intimate details are just part of having a relationship. You have to keep an open mind and be playful about it. I was friends with my boyfriend for a few years before we started dating, and by the time we'd been dating a month, we'd already shared our sexual fantasies with each other. At first, he was nervous that I'd find them weird or something, but I made sure that when the topic was brought up I was open, playful, and supportive.
I started out tickling him, and casually mentioning that it sometimes turns me on. He asked me, "really?" And I said, "Yeah, sure. What turns you on?" And it went from there, just a nice conversation. It turned out that our fantasies were more than compatible and now we have a lot of fun experimenting and playing around. Just because sex is a serious thing doesn't mean it needs to be done "seriously."