Thread: extremely worried... unwanted bleeding

Me nd my boyfriend have been experimenting with outercourse lately.... he has fingered me a few times but the last two times I have bled. I'm not sure why!! I'm getting close to the start of my period but i'm not sure if that is it or not. This makes me think that I'm not goin to be able to have sex without bleeding..... please HELP ME!! I need advice majorly!! Thanks!!

Is there slight stinging when you urinate? Like lemon juice on a cut? If so, it's possible he cut you with his finger nails while fingering you. But if you're sexually active, you should be going to a gynecologist anyway. Make an appointment and make sure you're okay in that department

No there has not been any stinging when I urinate... and I am still a virgin.

That's fine, but sexually active doesn't just mean that you've had sex. It means you've been involved in sexual activity, which you have, so it's still a good idea to go to a gynecologist anyway, especially now that you have unexplained vaginal bleeding.

I have heard about men "popping your cherry" Could that be it?? I do plan on goin to the gynecologist.

Mhm, that could absolutely be it. That wasn't the first thing that came to mind for me, personally, because I didn't bleed the first time I had intercourse or the first time I was fingered, just slight discomfort for both. But everyone's different. Your hymen could be on the thicker side, and therefore was harder to break and caused more bleeding.

Not so. Your hymen can be slightly broken once, making it weaker, and the next time he penetrates you any way, it can be completely broken. It's possible. I've heard of it taking being penetrated 10 times before a hymen completely breaks. The time doesn't really make that much of a difference. Hymen strength is what matters most here, I think. Still, go to the gyno. It could be your hymen, but may not be. That USUALLY doesn't bleed that much, that I've heard of anyway.

ok thank you very much!! I understand what is going on now.