Thread: Orgasms

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

Originally Posted by I_Have_Questions

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

Sounds like you are worrying far too much, not easy to stop it as its a natural reaction to this type of thing. Masturbation is so natural and although not as advanced as nowadays people have been using sex "toys" for years and years just it hasn't been talked about so openly.

Women can fake it and men have no idea. There are some sensations that a man could tell but mostly not!

Most people can't have an O just through intercourse you need other stimulation as well.

Originally Posted by Irelandlover

Sounds like you are worrying far too much, not easy to stop it as its a natural reaction to this type of thing. Masturbation is so natural and although not as advanced as nowadays people have been using sex "toys" for years and years just it hasn't been talked about so openly.

Women can fake it and men have no idea. There are some sensations that a man could tell but mostly not!

Most people can't have an O just through intercourse you need other stimulation as well.

Took the words right out my mouth.It looks like if you want an orgasm that you'll have to get one yourself.

Most women will never orgasm from penetration alone. Look for toys you can use with your partner. Don't expect yourself to orgasm because of your man's penis. I was having sex for 7 years before I actually came as the result of penetrative sex. And that is with 10+ years of masturbatory experience.

Originally Posted by I_Have_Questions

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

what does "come" mean to you ?

OK.

Women go through phases:

1. Excitement
2. Plateau
3. Orgasm
4. Resolution

A females vagina is lubricated by the "Bartholins glands" thats what makes them wet, this lubricates the vagina to lower friction on the penis.

If you think "come" is lubricant you are correct.

If you think come is "orgasm" you are incorrect.

A guy if he is smart can tell if you are faking an orgasm.

Easy to tell if a guy has ejaculated or not usually because he ejaculates.

Sometimes he may not have much ejaculate left or have none left still if he keeps the stimulation going he will still orgasm but there may be little or no sperm ejaculated.

Also the orgasm for a guy will be more intense.

Note# Orgasm is very difficult to achieve, most women I would imagine would not experience it in there lifetime.

It took me and my partner 7 ~ 8 hours to get there, if you are both skilled enough maybe you can achieve it, in your life time.

Foreplay is important, if you don't do enough foreplay you won't even get close.

I use my hands for foreplay, gentle caressing all over a womens body for a long time, when your shoulders are aching change over.

Learn to kiss a women gently and passionatley - women love that it really stirres them up, once you have found something that workes keep doing it.

What your initially looking for is the sweat above the top lip, when you see that your making progress, when you are both soaking wet your almost there ...

Then you enter the women and well just keep the foreplay up and then ...

Orgasm. yummy he he he

Learning how to masturbate will definitely help in this situation! It will also help if u relax a bit ... the stress of trying to get there can kill the mood.

The vaginal (G spot) orgasm and the clitoral are a bit different ... I think the clitoral is much more intense.