Thread: Orgasms

Hi Everyone,
I have read all your posts about orgasms, and I am still in the dark!
I have been married for over a year now and I do not think I have ever experienced one.
We have tried many different positions, and still...
The only times when I get really close is when he does clit. stimulation with his fingers... but even then, I feel like I am climbing a big mountain and right when I am about to reach the top... nothing.
Could someone describe what an orgasm feels like?
and what should I do/change to get one?

I do not use any sex toys, and do not masturbate.... any hints?

It feels like an explosion...O_O Sorry. That's the only way I can explain it.

Why don't you use toys or masturbate? If you find out what you like you can tell him exactly what to do.

"Please yourself before you let someone please you."

Ravsoma is so correct. You need to understand your own body first, if I hadn't masturbated I think I would have found it hard to orgasm. But because I did when I was younger I did every time with b/friend.

All these girls are right. There is no way you will be able to orgasm if you can't figure out on your own what gets you there. You can not expect someone else to do something for you that you cannot do yourself.

I would suggest investing in a small vibrator. A bullet or stick type. I believe the best way for first timers to get their first vibes in online. Good sites are Sex Toys, Vibrators, Sex Ed - Good Vibrations or Babeland - Welcome to Babeland, Toys in Babeland.

Or you can look into hosting a Pure Romance party. There are consultants all over the country and they come to your house and go over all the toys with you and your friends and it is very relaxed and very fun. Go to Pure Romance: Adult Sex Toy Parties For Women to find a consultant in your area.

You can also explore with a detachable massaging showerhead. Most women have explosive orgasms using these. But beware, they are VERY addictive!

If you have any questions or need anymore advice, feel free to email or IM me. My email addy is PixelPixie84yahoo.com and my AIM sn is DashboardPixie84.

Good luck hun! I know it is very very frustrating!

I think you might be psyching yourself out. You seem to be VERY stressed out about trying to get to the climax. If you're thinking about it the whole time "i wish it would hurry, whats taking me so long?", etc..then you'll have a harder time getting there. You should definately take some time, alone, to explore your body in depth. Masturbating will help you find out exactly what gets you going. Then when you're bringing yourself to climax, you'll better be able to show him where to touch, how much pressure to use, etc. If you're comfortable enough, let him watch you. He'll see what makes your body react and learn by example. Men don't come complete with the knowledge on how to please a woman and most love it when you tell them exactly what you like. The main thing is learn how to please yourself first.. Like some of the others said, aquire a vibe after you're getting good at climaxing manually. Get some good erotica to read (helps you relax AND turns you on) or find some type of porn that YOU like. Good luck to you in your journey to sexual oblivion.

I actually don't feel comfortable masturbating lol strange I know but I just can't! I've never had an orgasm either and I guess I probably never will since I can't bring myself to masturbate. I feel extremely weird even though alot of people do it....it's just something I can't seem to overcome.

Originally Posted by petite25

I actually don't feel comfortable masturbating lol strange I know but I just can't! I've never had an orgasm either and I guess I probably never will since I can't bring myself to masturbate. I feel extremely weird even though alot of people do it....it's just something I can't seem to overcome.

Do you feel icky doing it? Or do you get embarrassed?

Originally Posted by I_Have_Questions

Hi Everyone,
I have read all your posts about orgasms, and I am still in the dark!
I have been married for over a year now and I do not think I have ever experienced one.
We have tried many different positions, and still...
The only times when I get really close is when he does clit. stimulation with his fingers... but even then, I feel like I am climbing a big mountain and right when I am about to reach the top... nothing.
Could someone describe what an orgasm feels like?
and what should I do/change to get one?

I do not use any sex toys, and do not masturbate.... any hints?

You'll be soaked in sweat, so much so that your partner will be able to literally skim the water off your back, his penis will be thrusting in and out after awhile and then on the onset of orgasm a guy can feel the vaginal barrel start to balloon out at the end and constrict around the penis - which is just freaky, but if you just relax and go with it, eventually the vagina grips so tight that thrusting is nearly impossible, and this eventualy leads to ejaculation and the women or girls vagina starts to rythmically and sporadically quiver uncontrollabley which sent me into heaven the "feeling" is incredible to say the very least, ( have to be there to know and understand what I mean.

After the orgasm, you feel so incredibly close, an amazing feeling of intimacy that you generally never feel with your partner.(must be the vassopressin and oxytocin kicking in) If you have never felt the feeling that you get from it, its definatley worth striving for.

I just used my hands (foreplay) and she performed oral on me.

I think that maybe our modern life style is not compatible with really good sex.

Most women are exhausted after a hard days work, and this is probably the same with men.

Hope that is enlightening.

B.

PixieDuzt is right....I posted something yesterday, but it didn't seem to post! Anyway, we use toys all the time. They will definitely help you get comfortable with orgasms. My hubby uses them....I use them. They are very helpful and since they are always improving, I just ordered some more from Sex toys - ExoticMegastore adult toys store

and don't just get something boring....try the g-spot stimulator or something that vibes.....;-) After a while it becomes a fix!

Originally Posted by Ravsoma

Do you feel icky doing it? Or do you get embarrassed?

I don't feel icky at all...I guess i feel more embarassed than anything which I don't understand because it's not like i'm being watched lol