hi,

i have sex since i was 16 with different partners, but only experienced orgasm few times, i dont know why? most of the time it's even pleasureless.
is it my fault? is there any way to solve this problem?

since you have orgasmed in the past then the problem is probably your partner..clitoral stimulation is the key to orgasm for most women..penile penetration usually is not enough to get you off..have him kiss and tongue your clitoris,gently, not to rough..that sends most women into orbit..

You clearly are not sexually attracted to most of the men whom you've slept with. Never have sex when it is to give the other person pleasure and not you - ONLY have sex when YOU'RE horny. If you're not feeling pleasure then you're just not aroused. Your clitoris is the equivalent to a man's penis - the clitoris is responsible for a woman's orgasm, not the vagina, the clitoris extends into the vagina but its most pleasuring point is the external tip. Obviously, your clitoris is just not being stimulated, mentally or physically, you are not being sexually aroused so please stop having sex when you're not turned on and please examine and ascertain what turns you on so that you may finally enjoy the magic of good sex!!

Hugs 'n' kisses

I wouldn't be worried if you can't achieve it, it is hard to achieve.

I only know one girl in my life that had a powerful orgasm, there were other that had minor orgasm but not to the same intensity.

When I say powerful I mean you're both drenched in sweat and you can see the steam coming of your bodies in the cold air, i can literally skim the water of my gfs back and have it spill over my face, fast breathing, heart pounding at 200 beats a minute, spine arched back and then loss of control and rythmic pulsating of the vaginal barrel that is both distended and ballooned and sporadically quivers.

To get that its not easy feat.

Allow about 9 hours.

Lots of foreplay, then lots of foreplay, followed by lots of foreplay.

Your mind is the problem, if you can relax and let go - your there, if you can't your not.

Your whole body is an erogenous zone, learn to kiss gentley and passionately, and caress the whole body with the hands, butterfly caresses all over between the legs and outside the legs continuously.

And then the rest of the body...

I wouldn't be worried if you can't achieve it, it is hard to achieve.

I only know one girl in my life that had a powerful orgasm, there were other that had minor orgasm but not to the same intensity.

When I say powerful I mean you're both drenched in sweat and you can see the steam coming off your bodies in the cold air, i can literally skim the water of my gfs back and have it spill over my face, fast breathing, heart pounding at 200 beats a minute, spine arched back and then loss of control and rythmic pulsating of the vaginal barrel that is both distended and ballooned and sporadically quivers.

To get that its not easy feat.

Allow about 9 hours.

Lots of foreplay, then lots of foreplay, followed by lots of foreplay.

Your mind is the problem, if you can relax and let go - your there, if you can't your not.

Your whole body is an erogenous zone, learn to kiss gentley and passionately, and caress the whole body with the hands, butterfly caresses all over between the legs and outside the legs continuously.

And then the rest of the body...

The clitoris is the equivalent to the penis [quite literally] and a woman trying to achieve an orgasm without clitoral stimulation is as arre and as pointless as a man trying to achieve an orgasm without penile stimulation.

You must receive oral sex before penile penetration and during penetration you must get him to stimulate your clitoris.

If he refuses or just does not understand the female body, ask him to have sex whereby you ONLY touch his b*lls and then tell him that THAT is what penetration alone feels like for you - pleasurable but certainly insufficient!!