I would never force my husband to wear a chastity belt. Are we in medieval times suddenly? I know my husband is faithful to me because he has done nothing to make me think otherwise. Even if he did do something unfaithful, that's his choice, and he knows he'd lose his wife over it. Also, to whoever said masturbating is wrong. . .no, it's not. I don't care if my husband masturbates, honestly. It's normal for a man to do that, even when he's married.
Male chastity is different and is definitely something normally explored by people who are into BDSM, D/s or kink in general--definitely outside the norm.
But think of it this way: as a game, as role-playing fantasy, as a very powerful method that puts attention and focus on sexual intimacy, flirting with each other to influence them, general increased attention to your partner, lots of teasing, foreplay and bedroom games...and awesome sex. Without the sexual chemistry to make it fun for both people, it ain't worth it.
I have known about male chastity for quite sometime. There are REAL PRODUCTS (ignore the funky kinky stuff) out there that work very well and cannot be seen under clothing. I honestly believe that male chastity should be practiced by more women and their consenting men. Men are thinking about sex quite a bit. They are getting aroused all the time, whether it is their wife or a co-worker or a brief look at women at a coffee shop or even a brief glance of a magazine cover. This does not mean that he is an animal and cannot control himself. This is part of their wiring. It does not mean that w/o a chastity device he would do something (infidelity or fanaticize too much). It also does not mean w/o chastity he would not be attentive to his wifeís needs. What it does mean is that he stays very focused focused focused. Focused on what is supposed to be taking place at that very moment whether at the office or at home cleaning the gutters making dinner etc. When aroused at anytime he will never be able to become erect which will cause him to fight his feelings of sexual mind wondering. During this moment of physical and mental exercise he will feel the pressure and sometimes pain associated with being bound. The pressure reminds him of his wife being with him at all times - essentially it is like he is getting a hug and a sense of belonging. He will be reminded of the KEY HOLDER, his wife. This reminder is not of submissive and dominate situation it is a reminder of a team relationship. He cannot help but think of her.
Masturbation is a big topic too. We all know that men masturbate. Why do men masturbate??? This is easy to understand: (these are facts)
1. cannot communicate or afraid to communicate desire
2. fantasizing over other women
3. fantasizing over things his wife will not do
4. out of resentment
5. selfish personal pleasure
6. just wants to empty himself out
All reasons are Inappropriate and very Selfish!!! Masturbation changes a manís attitude. For instance when has a man ever masturbated and then went and cuddled with his wife and told her how much he loves and adores her? Get the point and there are many more points to be made. A chastity device will stop this!!! Again keeping him focused focused focused. A man should NEVER CUM W/O HIS WIFE being a part of it. I do not need to go into detail here; there are countless ways for a significant other to have her man cum, from the very kinky to the sweet and subtle. He will be forced to figure out how to communicate, of course with your guidance and support......
There is much more to write about Male Chastity, all of which is logical, respectful, and loving. I will start with what I wrote and will continue if there is interest.
Other topics concerning male chastity that need to be discussed:
The after orgasm difference between men and women
The day to day norms that each person must feel and give, respect, love, adoration, etc
Sexual frustration /energy and how to harness it, for truley empowering both parties
Psychological health of both partners and of the relationship
How to introduce your husband or significant other to male chastity
Wow this sounds just like my mother when I was 12!It's my body and I'll well do whatever I want with itWhen I maturbate to porn or just because,if my wife walks in she offers to help me finish what I'm doing!
As the starter fo this thread, I thought I would contribute again. My partner and I have used a chastity tube for around six or severn years - amybe more. Some people have said its associated with BDSM, well yes and no for us. We do not use any other things whips or chains and do not have anything to do with any scene, but I suppose I would be considered submissive at least in bed (though not in other spheres). This comes from my deep wonder and marvel when I am close to here - she is definitely more lovely and wonderful than I - though that does not mean I have some sort of problem or issue with my identitiy and I am happy.
The chastity device comes on and off at her whim, I suppose I spend about half the time in. After about three days I find my sensitivity to her increases, I notice her much more and she likes this, sometimes I am kept in for weeks, and I am teased, just little things, but by now my sensitivity to her is greatly increased. When I am out and about of course I look at attractive women - as all men do, my chastity device is a reminder that I am hers. When I have an erection then again its like a squeezing hand reminding me of her.
Most of all its like a feeling of belonging to her - which I like and give to her voluntarily. This is like a wedding ring to me, only more intimate (OK kinky if you like).
Anyways these are my thoughts. I am sure some will disapprove, but after the initial - admittedly arre idea, becomes accustomed too, its no bad thing, harms no one, and we both like it.
I think relationships are the most beautiful because it is a choice. My man chooses to be with me, come home to me every day, to be faithful to me. If he is forced to then does it really mean anything anymore. I was never interested in owning a piece of property called a boy friend or husband, but a willing relationship, that to me is true love.
uhmm, nope not for me. I don't "own" my husband's penis! It is my responsibility to make sure that he is kept happy and satisfied and has no reason to go elsewhere and it is his responsibility to make sure he keeps it in his pants until the proper time and place. I don't want a husband that is too much of a child to control himself!