Thread: Ever heard of a male chastity device?

Here's my take, if your using things like this because that's your kink, then so be it, to each his/her own. However using something like this for the practical application of literally controlling your man is right along the lines of using a shock collar on a dog and will yeild a similar result, loyalty out of necessity, not desire.

If you feel you need something like this to rein in your husbands/bf urges (especially if he doesn't act on them unless with you) that says a lot about what you actually feel for the man, and it says a lot about your self. Ultimately if a guy allows this done it is on him, but I would find even being asked this outside of bedroom play to be insulting.

*uses an electric collar on a dog* Not a discussion for this forum but I can't resist... Properly used they are a good training aid but their point should not be to cause pain. Some dogs just zone out very easily and in particular hunting breeds. No amount of training will allow voice or whistle to penetrate where as physical sensation does. A collar is a reminder like any other attempts to distract them with noise, voice, or touch. Plus on windy days sometimes I just can't get even a whistle to carry far enough out here. It does somewhat apply to this thread since it all depends how you use and perceive the item. People have too many misconceptions or think the worst instead of seeing the actual application of something.

I do sometimes find it amusing and arousing to sexually frustrate my husband for awhile. Not long but occasionally for awhile. I probably wouldn't go so far as a chastity device even if he agreed. We laughed at the various ones while looking through sex toys on a site that leans towards bdsm. His answer was pretty much no way in . Beyond not wanting to wear one yourself I don't see why there is so much vehemence for the idea though. So long as the guy actually agreed to wear it and is not being forced in to it even mentally/emotionally I don't see what the problem is. Like I said it's a bit arousing to sexually frustrate him and even guys have said they found benefits both with sex and beyond it. If that's what it takes to keep your mind off sex so you can work and all it does is improve your relationship then it's a great idea.

Originally Posted by kira

*uses an electric collar on a dog* Not a discussion for this forum but I can't resist... Properly used they are a good training aid but their point should not be to cause pain. Some dogs just zone out very easily and in particular hunting breeds. No amount of training will allow voice or whistle to penetrate where as physical sensation does. A collar is a reminder like any other attempts to distract them with noise, voice, or touch. Plus on windy days sometimes I just can't get even a whistle to carry far enough out here. It does somewhat apply to this thread since it all depends how you use and perceive the item. People have too many misconceptions or think the worst instead of seeing the actual application of something.

I do sometimes find it amusing and arousing to sexually frustrate my husband for awhile. Not long but occasionally for awhile. I probably wouldn't go so far as a chastity device even if he agreed. We laughed at the various ones while looking through sex toys on a site that leans towards bdsm. His answer was pretty much no way in . Beyond not wanting to wear one yourself I don't see why there is so much vehemence for the idea though. So long as the guy actually agreed to wear it and is not being forced in to it even mentally/emotionally I don't see what the problem is. Like I said it's a bit arousing to sexually frustrate him and even guys have said they found benefits both with sex and beyond it. If that's what it takes to keep your mind off sex so you can work and all it does is improve your relationship then it's a great idea.

The collar analogy popped into my head first, as a dog person there are much better ways to get a dog to obey you that don't require such a method of "control", and I feel the same way about the male chastity device and loyalty in relationsips.

I did say that if it's a kink then so be it, but I still think that using it to control urges is odd, especially if your partner is asking you wear one out of concern for "her property". Far be it for me to insult anyones method of foreplay/excitement, but asking your partner to wear it to keep his mind out of the gutter is odd, and in my opinion a mistake. If you cannot treat your guy like an adult, why are you keeping him around?

This would not be anything I would want to have a man experience...After all, I do not expect him to ask ME to wear something like that so why should I ask him?

I find the thought disrespectful to his manhood and masculinity.

I believe it comes down to lust. Instead of thinking of other woman you fantasize about your wife if she becomes the gatekeeper. If she is allowed to decide when the man gets 'his' it provides the male with incentive to chase her. It's like dating all over again.

It is easy to get in a rut when you take pleasure in things mostly for yourself ie male masturbation. I can agree with the premise of reserving your climax for your partners benefit. I think Kama sutra has something on this but sans the tacky toys.

"I do sometimes find it amusing and arousing to sexually frustrate my husband for awhile" Don't like this or any control of the other even if it's consenting. It's open to abuse/control. But whatever floats your own boat.