should i marry my GF?

ami · 09-05-2007, 03:03 AM

Hi guys,

I am a 32 years old guy. I love sex very much. I am a sexual person. my girlfriend who is two years younger than me is not as sexual as i am. We have been together for four years with no child. The problem i have is that my gf wants to have sex only once or twice a week where as i would love to have sex once or twice a day. The reason she gives me is she gets tired after work. We both work like 8 hours a day. She does all the house work and I work in an office where there is no work load.

Another problem is, i love oral and she doesn't like giving oral. But she tells me she loves it when i do oral to her. And unless i insisite to change position, she never wants to change the missonary position.

Now my question is how can we be married? She wants us to be married soon and i can not decide. i think sex is one thing to concider in marriage.

Please i need your advice.

thanks
Ami

**Little** · 09-05-2007, 07:24 AM

Is she on birth control? That can lower your sex drive.
Why don't you do any of the house work when she works just as much as you do? If it's one of those situations where she doesn't want you to do any, that's one thing, but if she'll let you, do the dishes if she cooks or vice versa! Do a load of your own laundry on the weekends. It really helps out; you don't realize how difficult and time-consuming ALL the housework is until you're doing it! She might be doing ALL of it in an effort to show you "See, I would be a good wife!" Have you thought about that?
Sex is an important thing to consider in marriage. Have you tried to talk to her about it? Tell her the things that you have told us here? I think you need premarital counseling. There's got to be a middle road somewhere.
As a side note ... woman-on-top sex is really physically demanding :P Have you tried to get her to do doggy-style? She might really enjoy it.
Good luck.

seashoremaine · 09-05-2007, 07:53 PM

I am married and in the same situation. You should not get married until you work this out. This problem will get worse and drive you apart if you don't address it. Sometimes the solution is simple (stop taking this pill, start taking that pill) but often it's very complex. We have tried and talked about everything and we are basically back to square one. She has no sex drive and does not know why (or won't admit why).

I'm not sure why you don't do more work around the house? My wife and I both work and I do all the cooking, dishes, laundry, lawn mowing, etc... By the way, doing all this house work has not helped with my wifes libido at all. She uses her extra time to to knit, play on the computer, watch TV...

ami · 09-06-2007, 12:22 AM

Thanks guys you have been helpful.

09-05-2007, 03:03 AM	#1
ami Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 10	should i marry my GF? Hi guys, I am a 32 years old guy. I love sex very much. I am a sexual person. my girlfriend who is two years younger than me is not as sexual as i am. We have been together for four years with no child. The problem i have is that my gf wants to have sex only once or twice a week where as i would love to have sex once or twice a day. The reason she gives me is she gets tired after work. We both work like 8 hours a day. She does all the house work and I work in an office where there is no work load. Another problem is, i love oral and she doesn't like giving oral. But she tells me she loves it when i do oral to her. And unless i insisite to change position, she never wants to change the missonary position. Now my question is how can we be married? She wants us to be married soon and i can not decide. i think sex is one thing to concider in marriage. Please i need your advice. thanks Ami Last edited by ami; 09-05-2007 at 03:12 AM.

09-06-2007, 12:22 AM	#4
ami Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 10	Thanks guys Thanks guys you have been helpful.

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09-05-2007, 07:24 AM	#2
Little WH Junior Administrator Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: whjuniorad[at]hotmail[dot]com Posts: 1,809 Blog Entries: 4	Is she on birth control? That can lower your sex drive. Why don't you do any of the house work when she works just as much as you do? If it's one of those situations where she doesn't want you to do any, that's one thing, but if she'll let you, do the dishes if she cooks or vice versa! Do a load of your own laundry on the weekends. It really helps out; you don't realize how difficult and time-consuming ALL the housework is until you're doing it! She might be doing ALL of it in an effort to show you "See, I would be a good wife!" Have you thought about that? Sex is an important thing to consider in marriage. Have you tried to talk to her about it? Tell her the things that you have told us here? I think you need premarital counseling. There's got to be a middle road somewhere. As a side note ... woman-on-top sex is really physically demanding :P Have you tried to get her to do doggy-style? She might really enjoy it. Good luck.

09-05-2007, 07:53 PM	#3
seashoremaine Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Maine Posts: 28	I am married and in the same situation. You should not get married until you work this out. This problem will get worse and drive you apart if you don't address it. Sometimes the solution is simple (stop taking this pill, start taking that pill) but often it's very complex. We have tried and talked about everything and we are basically back to square one. She has no sex drive and does not know why (or won't admit why). I'm not sure why you don't do more work around the house? My wife and I both work and I do all the cooking, dishes, laundry, lawn mowing, etc... By the way, doing all this house work has not helped with my wifes libido at all. She uses her extra time to to knit, play on the computer, watch TV...