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    Hi everyone. I started a post on this topic in another forum and then realized that I started it in the wrong place (and, given the subject matter, I was really embarassed!). So this is kind of a repeat post but hopefully this is a more appropriate place to put it.

    The question I asked is whether anyone has tried using a chastity devise to help control their husband’s masturbation? Yes - I know it's a wierd question. Please believe me that I don't want to dominate or control my husband, and this isn't a case where I have a porn-crazed husband and think that locking up his penis is going to solve it.

    As I mentioned in my original post, our relationship is basically good, and he is a good husband and a great dad. I'm pretty sure that he isn't a porn addict and he doesn't neglect or ignore me. The only "problem" is that we are not as intimate anymore as either of us want to be.

    There are a lot of reasons why we aren't as initimate as we used to be, and him masturbating is only one of several factors. We have two kids and life is really hectic so there are a lot of things that keep us from being initimate. I don't think he masturbates all the time and it certainly isn't the sole cause of us not being as intimate as we want. But I do know that he does do it, and even if it isn't causing us to be less intimate, it certainly isn't helping.

    In my original post there were a couple of really good replies about talking with him about the issue, and about making time to be intimate with each other. These are all really great thoughts and my husband and I do know that we need to work on these things. In fact, we have been talking about what we can do to improve our marriage and we both agree that we need to do things like go on date nights and re-connect with one another each day.

    His masturbation is not the sole problem, and I know that its not realistic to think that simpy using a chastity devise is going to fix everything all by itself. But I read an article that said sales of chastity devises has been increasing significantly in the past several years, so I started to wonder if maybe using them is more common than I think, and if so, can they be helpful to use?
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    You don't seem to have a very good reason for wanting him to not beat off every now and then. If you both want to have more sex...maybe you should really try it. He'd definitely have less time to give himself a little tug.

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    Quote Originally Posted by a_dub View Post
    You don't seem to have a very good reason for wanting him to not beat off every now and then. If you both want to have more sex...maybe you should really try it. He'd definitely have less time to give himself a little tug.



    A Dub
    Sometimes you amaze me. In a Good way
    Both you and **8** her .

    I , as other women are learning what the " young " male mind thinks about " Given it Tug " " Whack it " and several other Terms for Masturbation. Which in itself is Sexually Pleasuring oneself. Which Both Men and Women do.

    Usually when they have No one that wants to, or Can't find one to share Sexual Intimacy with, other than the Porn or the One Night Train after they get a Chick Drunk, to get " Jiggy with It ".. They result to Sex with Self .

    Now I am not sure just why this Epidemic of Young Men of ... How it began ?
    That can't seem to find a Relationship worth trying to be a Gentleman and taking things slowly and maybe trying to get to know the Girl a few weeks, before Jumping in the sack and asking how big or how good it was.

    That...
    One Person cannot try to meet the Meet the Brain before Using the " Meat ". Is it the Raising by Parents, one Parent, Single household, where Mom has been left with a Son and more kids, or a Father left with a Daughter and Sons, a Death in Family, Multiple Parents ( Steps or Blended ).

    The newest interest with me, Is Why all the Sex Questions with Most of the younger Generation . Did no one teach them anything, or does our Internet teach them . There is a Simple answer to several Questions on this WH

    1) Am I Pregnant ?
    Take a Test.

    2) Am I Big ( Penis Size )
    Compared to ?

    3) Complaints or Questions about " Oral " or Deeper or Harder.
    Don't Watch Porno, Ask your Partner and talk about it,then.. Practice makes Better Love Making.

    ** Sloppy Seconds isn't always the Best or the Worst, Depending on who ate first **

    4) I'm not Satisfied or Different Moods when Horny.
    Libido. libido, libido = Sex Drive and Time. All kids in bed, 2 jobs, Divided, both Tired and Beat, Bed feels great. But not with each Other ?

    **** Time for a Us Night ****

    How did you make the 2nd Kid , if you didn't have time for Lovemaking ?


    But I should start a Thread to You Younger Men here Asking help from the more Experienced Men, that have been here a few times. I am sure they will be Very Honest on what they have Learned from the WH Members since 2007.

    To the OP , was your Original thread closed ?

    Or are you still asking
    about the Dangers or Positives of a Male Chasity Control Module ?

    I will Post it in another Thread . The Research only .


    Sorry to take off Topic here . But some of these Men here might need one around most of us Women .. LOl




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    Quote Originally Posted by BabyGirl View Post
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    A Dub
    Sometimes you amaze me. In a Good way
    Thats what I try to do...amaze women. Usually in the bad way though...or the "wow, I actually thought he was kinda cute, but he's so immature...now its just yuck" kinda way.

    I , as other women are learning what the " young " male mind thinks about " Given it Tug " " Whack it " and several other Terms for Masturbation. Which in itself is Sexually Pleasuring oneself. Which Both Men and Women do.
    As someone who spends quite a bit of time tugging it, beating off, jerking off, spanking the monkey, stroking the worm, and snapping one off...I embrace it. Of course it means that I'm often the butt of a lotta of teasing from the fellas and some of my female "boys", lol. But I look at it this way: My hands are free, never has a period, is always in the mood, never has a headache, doesn't know how to say "not tonight", doesn't have an attitude, and never asks me to do anything I'm not already doing. Its the perfect mate! Plus, I can make love to whoever I want: Hollywood actresses, porn stars, the cute girl who sits 2 rows to my left in class, that rich guy's wife. You name her, she's not only available but DTF and F some more.

    Usually when they have No one that wants to, or Can't find one to share Sexual Intimacy with, other than the Porn or the One Night Train after they get a Chick Drunk, to get " Jiggy with It ".. They result to Sex with Self .
    Absolutely. Sometimes all the effort and risk involved with actually approaching real live women, and the logistics of hiring an escort renders the self tug job as the best discovery since breathing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by busymom3696 View Post
    Please believe me that I don't want to dominate or control my husband
    In what sense is you putting his penis into a device to regulate his behavior not control? If the devices you're talking about have gotten more popular, it's probably because BDSM is more popular. People don't do that to solve problems, but because they get off on it. You don't seem to really think the masturbation is the root of the problem with you're intimacy anyway or that the device would solve the "problem". It wouldn't, because he'd have to submit. Meaning that it's not the device, but you dominating him that's stopping it. So what are you asking? If it would spice things up?

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    Stillness - I am asking if anyone has any experience with using a chastity device to help control (or maybe curb is a better word) masturbation. But if anyone has any experiences about using one simply to spice things up in their marriage, I am certainly interested in learning about that too.

    You asked in what sense is me putting his penis into a device not control. It wouldn't be me putting his penis into a devise, it would be us. I certainly wouldn't ask him to do anything against his will, and if he didn't want to I certainly wouldn't push him. Or if he agreed to give it a try and then decided that he really didn't like it and wanted to stop, then that would be his choice.

    You also assume that I am the one who would decide when it goes on and when it comes off but that is one of hte things I am asking. For anyone who has used one, what was the best way to use it? Did you both agree that you would be the one to decide when it goes on or off or does he have the ability to take it off anytime he wants?

    I'm sure that the vast majority of people who buy them use them as sex toys. For anyone who has bought one just to spice things up, did it work?

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    Right after I posted my last message I noticed that the two threads below this one both involved issues where couples weren't having sex with each other as often as they would like. Apparantly this is a pretty common problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by busymom3696 View Post
    Right after I posted my last message I noticed that the two threads below this one both involved issues where couples weren't having sex with each other as often as they would like. Apparantly this is a pretty common problem.
    It most definitely is.

    I think your last post is going to get a response much better suited to what you need. There's a resident sexologist here and probably a few folks that have been into bondage. It seemed like you were moreso getting answers to the question of whether or not an adult should be forced to have their behavior controlled to fix an undesirable habit OR how you could increase intimacy. When the real question is about erotic bondage as it relates to intimacy. I think it's a good one.

    I wish you well. Welcome to the boards.

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    Quote Originally Posted by busymom3696 View Post
    Right after I posted my last message I noticed that the two threads below this one both involved issues where couples weren't having sex with each other as often as they would like. Apparantly this is a pretty common problem.
    Mine is one of them...but it seems to have died off. I was talking to myself last night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by a_dub View Post
    Thats what I try to do...amaze women. Usually in the bad way though...or the "wow, I actually thought he was kinda cute, but he's so immature...now its just yuck" kinda way.



    As someone who spends quite a bit of time tugging it, beating off, jerking off, spanking the monkey, stroking the worm, and snapping one off...I embrace it. Of course it means that I'm often the butt of a lotta of teasing from the fellas and some of my female "boys", lol. But I look at it this way: My hands are free, never has a period, is always in the mood, never has a headache, doesn't know how to say "not tonight", doesn't have an attitude, and never asks me to do anything I'm not already doing. Its the perfect mate! Plus, I can make love to whoever I want: Hollywood actresses, porn stars, the cute girl who sits 2 rows to my left in class, that rich guy's wife. You name her, she's not only available but DTF and F some more.



    Absolutely. Sometimes all the effort and risk involved with actually approaching real live women, and the logistics of hiring an escort renders the self tug job as the best discovery since breathing.
    ah man u crack me up

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