Can some vibrators hurt?

**Magnetism** · 07-01-2012 11:01 AM

Just curious about depending on the rubbery material?

As I mentioned in other threads, doctors have ruled out medical causes. I have been able to experience non-painful intercourse with a partner and previous toys, but this new one I bought felt weird. The material felt very raw inside me, even when I put lubricant on it.

I used a water-based lubricant, and then read the box saying "use a lubricant compatible with rubber." Which lubricant should I use then? I'm considering going back and buying something more realistic and softer, if that makes sense lol.

I will admit all those fancy looking vibrators look intimidating to me..like some funny machine you're sticking inside of you haha.

I would just like to practice penetration and aim to make it more pleasurable with a vibrator, but I don't want to keep experiencing pain and nervousness where I'm conditioning my body to get turned off.

**Hugo-B** · 07-01-2012 12:18 PM

Silicone based lube is about as lubey as you can get. I know it's the gay mens lube of choice for anal.

Perhaps start with a basic dildo (no electric parts) which isn't too big and practice on yourself, 'working your way up' to a size you deem optimal?

**jns** · 07-01-2012 12:48 PM

Maybe you are allergic to the type of rubber used. What type of rubber is it? Also, on molded plastic and rubber parts, a mold release agent is used to help the part separate from the mold. These agents are various types of oils and additives depending on what is needed. You might be allergic to the agent. Sometimes it takes a lot of cleaning with the right solvents, detergents and emulsifiers to get rid of the mold release agent.

If the vibrator is the right shape, you could put a condom on it.

**LittlePip** · 07-01-2012 02:23 PM

This is how penetration with a toy feels for me if I haven't given myself any "foreplay" such as clitoral or visual stimulation or if someone else is using it and it's a bit too vigorous, too soon. I wonder if rather than an allergy, which presumably the doctor has ruled out along with the other medical causes, it's technique? Like you said, your body thinks penetration equals pain and may not be opening up enough or producing enough natural lubricant to aid you.

I find waterproof toys in a hot shower relaxing which might help with the fear? However I also find it washes away much of the natural lubricant. Have you tried getting comfortable with penetration by your own fingers first? You can work your way up from one to however many you are comfortable with? Then, as suggested above, supplement your pleasure with a very small soft dildo. Try reading yourself with it first, use lots of lube and run it over the areas you like touched such as your clitorus and outer lips then try teasing the opening of your vagina. You don't need to force it all in at once, the vaginal opening has many nerve endings and warming yourself up will help open and wet your vagina to allow the toy in.

I hope at least some of these ideas are of some use to you?

**Magnetism** · 07-01-2012 03:36 PM

Penetration with fingers feel fine. I can insert up to three fingers. The vibrator I have now is smaller than what my previous partner was, but perhaps it just doesn't feel as natural? I might have been trying to be forceful, and maybe the toy is still new. Some people say that it takes time for your body to used to something, like being nervous about having sex with a person for the very first time.

JNS-It doesn't say what type of rubber it is. It's just a jack rabbit.

**jns** · 07-01-2012 03:42 PM

I looked up a picture of it. Try putting a condom on the main shaft and use plenty of lube. See if you have the same symptoms.

**ItsASecret** · 07-01-2012 03:46 PM

Did you go slow with it at first? The easiest thing to do is use a bunch of lube and just put a little bit in, maybe an inch, and start to contract your pelvic muscles while the vibrator is in you so that the muscles can accommodate that size. Maybe keep the vibrator off during that time though. Then once it feels okay you put it in a little further. Repeat the contracting of the PC muscles and it will help your vagina stretch to the size it needs to without forcing anything to happen. That process can help with avoiding the pain and because it is slower you can ease the nervous feelings because you will be in control of how fast your own body is getting used to the vibrator.

**Magnetism** · 07-02-2012 04:17 PM

Thanks, secret. I will try it out and let you know how it goes!

**Magnetism** · 07-04-2012 09:05 AM

So, I tried your tips. I tried to insert the vibrator during a masturbation session where I haven't climaxed. Like I was in the midst of arousal. After I orgasmed, I inserted the vibrator quickly again and it felt fine. Is there any way I will able to have intercourse without needing to orgasm first?

The most difficult part is entering in the beginning. It took me two times to insert it. I have lubrication. But, once it's in. It doesn't hurt. I wonder why that is? Maybe just resistance?

I might shop for a new toy, because I feel like this material doesn't feel that great.

**ItsASecret** · 07-04-2012 10:37 AM

Is there any way I will able to have intercourse without needing to orgasm first?

Yes...go slllloooowwwwwww with the vibrator lol. Do not just jam it in there. You can have intercourse before an orgasm but the thing to keep in mind is the vaginal muscles must be relaxed. You can be soaking in lube but if your muscles are not relaxed than it is going to be difficult to insert anything. The initial insertion like you say is going to be the most difficult part, your muscles are naturally going to want to clamp up at first because something is trying to "get in" so to speak. Try taking it really slow again, just an inch in or so at the start and just squeeze your PC muscles over and over. When you do that rhythm you will be able to feel your vaginal muscles have less tension and you will be able to fit more of the vibrator in you. But once your muscles are relaxed enough it will be able to go in and like you say it won't hurt. It is merely that initial hurdle you need to get over. A new toy may help you out though, find one that is more sleek in texture and you can ask the workers there if there is a type of material that does not cause much resistance.